Vent.

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My boyfriend and I have discussed in therapy multiple times and have agreed, I will have sex at least once/ twice a week, where I will initiate. I have mentioned before how much of a chore sex becomes because if he doesn’t get it, he’ll treat me mean the next day. This is why we agreed to what we agreed on, sex once/ twice a week. If he wants anything more he will have to initiate, which he hates doing, and understand that I’m not horny 24/7 like he is. There’s times I’m just not into it, but I tell him take what he needs to for himself. He says he hates taking from me. Ok, fair.

We have had sex three times this week. This morning he tried rubbing me and I was not into it. So he got upset. I’m a SAHM, he pays for everything. This morning before he left to work he says I’m not loving him, & then proceeded to say I just use him for money. & walked out. I was initially upset about the comment cause wtf?

I just got a haircut yesterday.
I hardly ever spend anything on myself, it’s always for the kids.
I’m just annoyed. & irritated. & he just keeps coming to me today trying to argue about shit that I have no energy to argue about.

I just need to vent cause I’m so fucking annoyed.

Put a finger down if xx

you only ever had sex with one person, only ever kissed this person, been with them 8 years and are still currently with them, started a family and now wondering if dating or having other sexual relationships would of been beneficial to a long term relationship in terms of experience ✊🏻

Lube recommendations

Can anyone recommend a good lube? We tried one other night (durex) and it made my partner go floppy!!!

I feel used

I've been with my partner 4 years now and I'm pregnant. I got pregnnat just when I had decided I did not want to be with him anymore as during the 3 years I've found out he was talking to other girls and I say girls because they're all younger than me. I'm in my mid 30s and these girls have all been in their early 20s and he's in his late 20s. We have been through more bad things than good. He cheated on me on the first year and blamed it on me. He hasn't worked since he's been with me neither and always promises me he will find work but never does only worked twice and the first time he got fired the second one which was late year he had an accident on his fi ger which had to have surgery and couldn't work till now but still hasn't found work even though I'm near to the end of my last trimester. I'm constantly finding things on his phone which he thinks he's deleted but I have my ways of undeleting things. Or just too good with phones. He doesn't help me around the house. Constantly calling old just because I'm tired of always coming home to find mess and my side of the bed dirty and he can't even clean it up. He made me fix his phone only for me to see he was chatting and calling his ex wife and telling her his single again. If he's doi g that with her I can't imagine with who else he's doing it with. Whenever he comes home from "playing football" he starts accusing me of bringing men or someone to my house because he finds foot prints or stains on the floor. All these while I'm pregnant. If he doesn't feel like I'm the one for him or if I'm too old for him why is he still with me. I've kicked him out of my house so many times but he comes bk all the time or just says why do I say that if I really don't want him to leave if I'm just gona be crying after. When I finish work early he's always asking me in a bad " urgh why you finishing so early"? As if it's a bad thing I'm bk home. All of these to me just point to the fact heseither chatting to some other girl or looking somewhere else. And every time on my pay day he just asks me to borrow him money and starts being all nice. And if I say no he then starts saying oh when I start working I'm not gona be like that stingy. Making me feel bad which makes me feel bad and I fall for it All the time. I feel like I'm just with someone who I think will love me but I'm so wrong. And he never will even if I do have his baby. I'm just tired of feeling like this like I'm always just someone who he can use. While he chats to his other little girls and makes then feel nice and good and probably worth it. He's always made me feel worthless, less or little or old just Coz I'm 9 years older than him.

I just need a genuine friend during this time..

A genuine friend that totally gets it, is what I long for. Yes, we may get busy from time to time but when we get back together the energy never changes. Our kids play together and possibly grow up being best friends, when we are both wrong in a situation accountability and communication is never an issue. Just a hug, sitting back in the yard talking about sweet nothings and probably end up crying about anything.. Why is it so hard to find that?

YOOOO

just bored. looking for a friend to talk to... preferably someone that talks back 😭🤣