Married but alone
My husband has dumped every single thing on me over the last couple of years. Two children, two dogs, the house, groceries, cooking, cleaning... he works from early morning to late night and earns a big fat package while I am a stay at home mama. He stays home only on Sundays and refuses to help with anything saying it's his only day off and he needs rest.
I'm on anxiety and depression medicines for 4 years now and my limits are stretching thin. The mental fatigue is so much I want to run away sometimes. We have zero connection, zero communication, he is not involved even with his own kids. It's just work, watching his sitcoms, partying with his people and sleeping. When I speak up, he says he is already doing enough by earning money and he can't do more. I can leave if that irks me so much.
I don't know what to do!!
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You leave. The only difference is you aren't annoyed as much when he comes home.
If you want to leave, you probably should. If you just want help and he makes a bunch of money, hire a house cleaner, sign up for grocery delivery, get some part time childcare (he gets one day off, you should too). Good luck mama!
Can you get some househelp?
My husband didn’t step up until I had my bags packed and told him I was leaving. I decided to give him another chance and so far it’s been good. Working early morning to late at night can be very taxing. So is being a stay at home mom. Can he cut his hours at all? Can y’all hire help a couple days a week?
Yeap, try to negotiate with him,
Re-engaging them, like they're dating, brings them closer and they can talk. It's not easy, but it's a good start to make the change. I understand your tiredness.
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