Married but alone

My husband has dumped every single thing on me over the last couple of years. Two children, two dogs, the house, groceries, cooking, cleaning... he works from early morning to late night and earns a big fat package while I am a stay at home mama. He stays home only on Sundays and refuses to help with anything saying it's his only day off and he needs rest.
I'm on anxiety and depression medicines for 4 years now and my limits are stretching thin. The mental fatigue is so much I want to run away sometimes. We have zero connection, zero communication, he is not involved even with his own kids. It's just work, watching his sitcoms, partying with his people and sleeping. When I speak up, he says he is already doing enough by earning money and he can't do more. I can leave if that irks me so much.
I don't know what to do!!

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I peaked 😔

I got really angry at my 4 year old, threw the tooth brush and stormed out of the room. He went to bed crying and I didn’t go to him.

He came out of his room crying at one point and begged me to come back, but I sat him on my lap, hugged him and explained I’m too angry to go back into the room to put him to sleep. He begged me crying again over and over, and I just kept saying I loved him, we’re still best friends, but I can’t come back in. He then kicked me, so I shut the door and let him cry himself to sleep.

I know this horrible and I feel like the worst person. I know I’m going to wake up tomorrow with the worst feelings and guilt, but right now, I’m so fucking fed up of this life. Everything is a battle, there is never a time we can just do the thing and today it peaked for me.

Just ranting

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I’m laid here typing this and I’m not sure if I’m more fuming or upset. We have a new baby who is 3 months old and an older child. It’s Easter Sunday and in a few hours the kids will be waking up. My husband thought it would be a great idea to arrange a meal out with his family and get absolutely shit faced. We eventually got home around half past midnight. I then had to put the kids to bed and sort out the egg hunt, all the Easter hunny stuff and blow up the balloons etc, bunny feet trail etc all alone. He went to bed and threw up all over the bathroom. I’ve just spent 20 minutes stripping the bed after he’s thrown up again in bed and then out the pissing window! It all down the side of the house, all over the outdoor window sill and down the kitchen window, window sill and outdoor sofa! I’m literally SEETHING!!!!!!!!! We’ve got people coming round at 10am and a roast dinner to cook.
Not sure why I’m posting. I think I just needed to vent. He’s been so pissing selfish!!!!!!

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