I need some mummas advice and tips 🙏🏼
Currently my baby is 4 months and sleeps in my bed in between me and my husband. Shes snuggled in her docatoc with a love-to-dream swaddle (arms up rather than arms tucked down) during the day she’s in her Moses basket in the front room, in the same swaddle.
But I feel like it’s time to change things for these reasons…
1. She’s outgrowing the docatoc at night
2. She starting to try and roll so need to remove the swaddle
3. During the day, she is so sensitive to noise and light, I feel maybe she needs to start napping upstairs where it’s quiet and dark.
So my plan is to move her to the next to me crib that’s been gathering dust, and put her in a sleep sack at night. And during the day, put her upstairs in a sleep sack, but not in the next to me, she actually has her own room with a cot and black out curtains, I thought I’d put her in there during the day. She is very much used to her room. I often put her in the cot while she’s awake when I’m getting ready in the morning and she happy in there.
I feel like this is all a lot to change at once, should I do things slowly? I don’t know how to make these changes without freaking her out.
Help!!
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Up to you a our daughter was in our bed every night until about 5 months and we just bit the bullet and moved her into her room into a big cot she takes her day time naps in here also. Takes some time to adjust but she took to it really well and we now have a semi-routine. If she’s happy in her swaddle - could you get one of their transition bags that have the removable arms so it’s safe for rolling? It might have the same snug feeling round the tummy which she might like?

Our little boy has always slept in the next to me with Tommee tippee grobags his arms are free at night and he settles in our bed with us an hour before he goes in his cot. Xx

Your new plan sounds perfect and I would just straight swap asap. Sleeping inside the docatoc in your bed all night is not safe sleep at all. If she doesn’t like the change you can try to have her asleep with you and then transition to the next to me once asleep.
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