To the mums of 2 kids

I didn't want them close together. So my daughter was 4 when I had her sister

I didn't want them close together, and after a traumatic first birth I wasn't sure if we'd have another. We decided we were ready when my first was a little over 4, and I had his brother when he was 5.

Both mine started to sleep better when they started school nursery.

I had a non sleeper and he didn't sleep until he was almost 5. I can't even fathom having another until that was sorted.
I've just had my other with him being 8.5 and it was tough even with him being independent, especially the last 2 months before birth when he had less of me and I could negotiate with him and include him so he understood. He's been great but that was tough enough.
Just my experience though many woman do it, but friends that did it said it was horrible and the amount of posts on here with a small age gap, I just don't get why anyone would choose to put yourself through it until things are somewhat calmer!
Having another is amazing though x

I can really relate as this question as it’s something I think about often. I have an 18 month old who’s only just started sleeping better. We have new problems now as we’re entering into the toddler tantrums already. But I’m like you and I’m seriously wondering about getting on with it and adding to our family as we definitely do want another. I’m 38 though so I sorta do need to get going with growing our family. My sister had a 7 year age gap with her two girls and at first it was lovely to see but now she has a teenaged and a 6year old and it can be tricky thinking of things to do together as a family. Either the teenager has to compromise or the 5 year old has to take a back seat. Or they do things separately. So I think no matter what age gap you have, it will come with hiccups. It’s probably better to be selfish and think what do you want? A happy mom, means happy kids. X

3 years and 3 months between mine and my 3 year old is absolutely obsessed with baby such an amazing friendship x

Once my first turned 1 and I watched him with other children I knew I wanted a second.
Exactly 2 years and 2 weeks between them.
Is it challenging at times - yes. But is it amazing - absolutely.
Sleep wise - I cosleep with baby and we sleep well. I co-slept with my first as well and it was great.

My struggles were pregnancy with a toddler. That was an Olympic sport