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So my boyfriends mom was watching our kid while we were taking stuff back did not ask or text either of us if she could give my daughter mashed potatoes she texted us on the way home that she gave her some she’s only 4 months old I’m kinda upset an she now been throwing up a lot idk wut to do

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Hey girl! Do you know what was in the mashed potatoes? If not I would definitely find out. My ped recommended starting fruits and veg when my middle was 4mo. I am pretty sure she said no dairy until later though. This would not be something I do again ( only because I feel it affected my milk supply. Baby was perfectly fine!) I would ask mil what was in them. Then reach out to your ped.

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I’m so sorry she did this without a heads up. contact your Ped immediately for help depending on the severity of the vomiting. Is she breathing ok?

boyfriend needs to get his mom in line and tell her not to feed her solids out of the blue like that again. Let her know it made baby sick. It’s not impossible to give babies solids this early but I wouldn’t be surprised if his mom didn’t follow current guidelines on how to introduce solids.

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She’s over steps so much an he lets it slide an then I’m pissed off which makes him pissed off an she’s breathing good just been throwing up a lot an he clams it’s from him giving her cold an then hot early

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I’d fr stop letting her watch my baby if it was me. That’s dangerous for your baby and disrespectful for you

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I’d be mad pissed!!!! How’s her milk intake ?? If she is having multiple spit ups, try keeping her upright. She might not settle if you put her down to sleep, keep her close to you. Her digestive system is still developing, mashed potato is not the right food to start with, keep monitoring the poor baby. If the spit up doesn’t stop, and her milk intake goes down, definitely call the paediatrician!

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