Needing some advice/help😩

Hi I’m a 25 y/o mum of 1 I’ve been with my partner/baby dad since we were 15/16, since before I was pregnant my partner has kept on asking me if he can ā€œfinishā€ in my mouth, now there has been a couple of occasions where he has finished in my mouth after a blowjob but not told me he was going to (to clarify I have let him once and I didn’t like it) but lately he’s been asking more and more and even jokingly said ā€œwe’re not having sex again till you do itā€ but last night he messaged me and told me it doesn’t matter anymore and just to leave it I asked why he said ā€œbecause you’re never gonna do itā€ but yet I always say I don’t want to cos I don’t like it, and since last night something just feels off, but I also now feel really bad like I’m being a bitch, someone please give me some advice

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You don't have to do anything you don't want to do, even if you've done it before, even if it's your partner's favourite thing. He should accept the no and move on. He absolutely should not be doing it without asking your permission. Where I live, that's a crime under sexual assault legal code.

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That is assault!!! U shouldnt ever be coerced into doing anything u dont wanna do. Ur not being a bitch at all

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thats super weird that he messaged you that so abruptly… my intention is NOT to plant doubt but my first thought was that he found someone else to do it, do you think theres any chance at all he would have cheated? A man whose willing to do things to you without your consent (assault) doesnt seem like he would draw the line at infidelity

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