Working mamas, I need your help.

Hi there! I’m a FTM, currently 29 weeks pregnant with our sunbeam baby. Getting here has been a journey but so worth it. I currently work full time and so does my husband. I manage a local spa and am a massage therapist (not so much these days 😅) and my husband works overnight. We are having such a hard time trying to figure out what childcare will look like after. With my job requiring more in person presence and us needing to have two incomes to manage our house hold,I am feeling lost. Plus daycare is EXPENSIVE!! In a perfect world, I would love to work from home but know I can’t do that with my current job which I love and have been with since spa opened. We have a few friends and family who are near but they also all work full time. I just don’t know what the best course of action should be and don’t want to put my family in a super stressful situation once my leave is up if I have to leave my job. 😞 any advice?

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Hey mama! first, congratulations on your “sunbeam baby” already sounds so loved.

I just want to say, it makes total sense to feel overwhelmed trying to figure this out ahead of time. You’re not alone in that at all.

One thing that might help is looking at schedule overlap instead of full coverage since your husband works overnight, there may be a way to stagger things a bit so baby only needs part-time care instead of full-time. Even a few hours less a day can make a difference.

Also, if you haven’t already, it could be worth having a conversation with your job about any flexibility, even small adjustments can help during that transition period.

And for childcare, sometimes smaller in-home providers or nanny shares can be more affordable than traditional daycare centers.

You don’t have to figure it all out at once—just take it one piece at a time. You’re already doing a great job thinking ahead 🫶🏾

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Congratulations on your pregnancy! Why is a sun beam baby? ✨

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Sorry for the long replies. I hope this helps. Good Luck and much blessings to you and your family!🥰

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That’s really amazing your job is willing to work with you—that alone takes some pressure off

And I understand that concern all too well. It’s a different kind of anxiety trusting someone else with your baby, especially as a first-time mom.

If possible, you might be able to piece together help with family schedules, even temporarily, just to give yourself time to figure things out. And if you try daycare, starting part-time can help you ease into it and build trust. Ask every question you have—you’re your baby’s advocate, and their response will tell you a lot.

Also, try not to put too much pressure on having everything figured out now. I planned so much before my daughter came, and once she arrived, everything shifted—my feelings, my decisions, everything.

It’s okay to take this one step at a time . I hope this helps!

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