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What age did you put your babies in their own rooms? I know nhs says 6 months, but we keep waking each other up 😂😂

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5m and sleep trained at the same time . X

19m and no plan to yet looool. 6 months is the absolute minimum for SIDS reduction but 12 is recommended by a lot of other organisations.

I think a year

9m for us & it worked out great x

What are you doing to make yours a heavy sleeper at night? During the day if they nap, are you putting them in front of a loud TV / radio, washing up and hoovering around them? You need to be loud during the day, so they learn to sleep through any noises at night, from the day they are born. Mine is still in my room at 21 months 🤣 but she sleeps through and so do I, so it's no biggy. A kid from my town died of SIDS, so I think that's probably why I've kept her longer than most, to make sure I'd hear any struggles

3 weeks. I wasn’t getting ANY sleep. He was a very grunty loud baby and I was losing it. So my husband just put him in the cot for bed one night and I cried because I felt like I was abandoning him, and then we both slept that night lol so he’s been there ever since.

Recommended is 6 months but it’s a choice.
I didn’t move my first to his own room till he was 2.
Currently co-sleeping with my 6 month old and won’t move her too till around 2.

I don’t wake them up when I go in the room. More my toddler wakes his sister if he wanders in at night.

6 months and had co slept for the first 9 months. - I’d bring her into me after midnight so she’d get used to being in her room for a bit.
Then she’d sleep in there all night so from July - December
Then she hit 15 months and sleep went to 💩 again and we part co sleep 😂 I don’t think she’ll ever leave me haha

My son wasn't ready until he was around 10/11 months and still wouldn't last the whole night. But it's really personal on how you and your baby sleeps etc

5.5 months. She outgrew her next to me and we can’t fit a cot in our room. Plus likewise we just kept waking her up when we came to bed.

2.5 months - I really didn't want to and thought I'd never be away from him until at least 6 months but he was so loud at night I was not sleeping properly ever. The sleep deprivation led me to have a hallucination and that was it. Too scared, it's unsafe!

Turns out since we put him in his own room he sleeps better too! I was also disturbing his sleep and over reacting to him. First night I was super anxious but very happy since.

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Breastfed since one month old. Born (4lbs 11oz) At her two month check with my midwives they said she was doing really well with weight gain (6lbs 5oz). Now at 3 months we went to our family doctor and she is at 7lbs 6.4oz.

My doctor is concerned about weight gain but also said she’s doing great with holding her head, being attentive, etc. Dr. Said I should give formula

But what I don’t understand is my daughter always seems satisfied with feeding and doesn’t cry or fuss after. Anyone have a similar situation?

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I just saw a post about people being lucky their kids go to bed at 7pm, the comments were filled with people saying if they sent their kids to bed at 7…they’d be up at 3:30am / 4am / 5am…why is that??

My son goes to bed at 7pm and wakes up around 8/8:30am. I do consider myself really blessed with his sleep schedule however he doesn’t nap and he’s nearly 2 🤣 he dropped his final nap when he was around 14/15 months old 💔 if it’s later please let me know! Also what time they wake up - I’m curious 👀

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Baby had lost almost 10% of his birth weight at his Day 5 midwife home visit. He was weighed again today at Day 7 and his total weight loss is now 11%, so I’m feeling quite disheartened.

I’m exclusively breastfeeding and he’s feeding at least every 2 hours. He seems to be latching well and we’re getting plenty of wet nappies. The midwife is coming back in 2 days to weigh him again.

I’m going to make a conscious effort to increase my food and fluid intake too.

Has anyone else had a similar experience with their baby and managed to turn the weight loss around? Would really appreciate hearing how things went for you. Thanks

I think my marriage is past the point of saviour.

Hey everyone.

Sorry for the long read but please bare with me.

My husband and I have been together 7.5 years and married for 4 years. We have a nearly 5 year old little boy together.

Everything at the beginning of our relationship was everything I had ever wanted in a relationship. My husband was kind, caring, helpful, ambitious, strong etc. We both spoke about the want for our own family and how we would want to be as parents. Moving forward we got pregnant (planned), pregnancy wasn't easy and I was in and out of hospital a lot during 3rd trimester. My husband was perfect and excited etc throughout pregnancy until the 3rd trimester hit and then went of the rails a bit, drinking etc and not really there when needed.

I had experience with children and helped raised my neices, my husband had no experience. Neither of us had a good upbringing.

Roll on birth and my husband had a face like a slapped bum, our little boy was born absolutely perfect. I was really poorly and lost quite a lot of blood and was being sick. I had the shakes so bad I was struggling to hold my son. My husband left me before I was even moved to the ward whilst being unwell. He left me to go meet his dad at the pub to wet the babies head.

After we were discharged home my husband just took a back seat with everything. I done everything for our son all whilst recovering from a cseaction. My son was a poorly baby and I was also back and forth to Dr's and hospital with him on my own. My husband got a job where it was very long hours and having to stay away a few times a week for work. I was keeping the house, doing everything for our son and keeping everything together with no village. Roll on my son's like 3 weeks old and my husband says he feels nothing for our son. Shortly after this he has a massive breakdown. I supported him through all of this, took him to appointments whilst doing everything for my son who was still poorly.

For 1.5 years I done everything for my son and for everyone else and kept everything together.

Roll on to nearly 4 years later (sons nearly 5) and turns out my son is neurodivergent, has a eating disorder, now has a PEG fitted, has ketotic hyperglycemia, asthma and allergies. I'm dealing with this day in day out all whilst dealing with my own chronic health conditions.

My husband tries but he just shouts at our son a lot and gets frustrated. I feel like we just butt heads and I end up having to defend our child. He still trys to be sexual and kiss etc but I have no desire at all and even him just touching me just makes me want to pull away.

I feel like he hurt me more than anyone or anything possible. He ruined what was meant to the best time of our lives and ruined my whole experience entering motherhood and I just can't get past that. I've spoken to him and told him all this. He keeps saying he's sorry and he will change but it's just empty promises. He's not the man I feel in love with and he's not the father he was meant to be or that I want for our child.

Any advice please?