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What are you really on here for ? I'm starting to think the Moms on here are just here for attention and not to be friends .

They say message me and when you don't they don't even respond or it will just be dry . Or when ppl say that they didnt look at their phones ..... You mean to tell me you haven't checked your phone in 40 days 😂. My Mom checks her phone and she is in her 70's
So I'm not buying into that.

More and more I notice people are making post like this

This is suppose to be an app to makes friends and the ladies are not friendly

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I try and always respond. I also get busy in evenings and weekends and try to not be on my phone with my kids around. But I respond ASAP

I am here for friends. I may not always be quick to respond, but i WILL respond. I have gone through the same thing. Where they say they need someone who can hold a conversation, but yet send a 2 word response. Or how they post about oh message me blah blah blah. You message them they respond a couple times and then ghost you. I really feel like most people aren't looking for friends. And it sucks. I'm not looking for someone where we have to talk 24/7. I'm not looking for someone who responds back in 5 seconds. I'm just looking for someone where we message and have a good conversation. Now I do get responding with 2 words every so often. But if I feel I'm the only one trying to keep the conversation going and having to fish for responses I'm out. So anyone who got this far if you would like someone to talk to, please feel free to message me. It may take me time to respond but I promise I will respond.

That's why I'm confused, if we all have the same experience how come it keeps happening. I have been seeing the posts saying this and it makes me sad.

Same honestly

I saw that one. I was flabbergasted at that. Like wtf? Also the 2 people who i mentioned i still see saying they are looking for friends and wanting people to talk to. So I mean I guess maybe I did something wrong. I guess it's a possibility.

Thats exactly how I've felt about this app. Super misleading.
Im like okay you're very busy, then why are you on here if you have no time for friends?

I have had this app 24 hours so far, I’m not great at responding but I do try to respond when I can, but I am also a bit shy and never know what to say as I don’t want to come across as annoying but I have noticed that I have had a a couple people who don’t actually seem interested in talking to me, I haven’t got many mum friends with children around my daughters age and when I saw this app pop up on my facebook I got really excited, if anyone wants to message me please do as I would love to meet new people x

I feel like i try to respond but i also tend to isolate when im overwhelmed and not respond as quickly. But its usually those moments i need others to check in on me more. But when i do have the energy i will do anything and everything to check on others and see how theyre doing and uplift them in any way.

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Making friends

Is anyone else in the same situation as me. I want to make some mom friends who would like to meet up and go on play dates and walks or just a general catch up over a tea/coffee. But at the same time I’m shy I have a 2 year old little girl and a 1 year old little also.
Would anyone be willing to meet up and start a friendship.

Bestie?

Hey girls! Just looking for a bestie I can talk to and we can be there for each other! Long distance or close doesn't matter to me!!

looking for some mama friends or just friends in general 🥰

i really just want some close friends i can actually talk to about anything—like the deep stuff, the random thoughts, or even just how our day went 🤍 i miss having that kind of connection where you can fully be yourself, no judgment, just real conversations and genuine energy. i want friendships where we laugh over nothing, hype each other up, vent when we need to, and just be there for each other no matter what 🫶🏼

i’m not looking for anything surface level, i really want to build a strong bond with people who are open to the same thing. someone who actually wants to talk, check in, and grow a real friendship over time 💕 i’m also totally okay with long distance because honestly, if the connection is there, it doesn’t matter where you are! i just want good people, good vibes, and something real 💗

Not sex related but marriage related.

We’ve been married for almost a yr now and our baby is 3 months old. I have a son from a previous relationship and when I say the one thing in common they have is the fact that these men feel like they know everything and don’t need help from me with these kids but the minute something happens, now it’s babe help! How many times have you taken your baby out and stated you won’t be out too long but yet you were out for a while longer and felt unprepared is enough food, pampers, etc? I have and i always try to make sure I’m not. My husband doesn’t like strollers and this is the second time he’s ever been out with our baby alone. He uses the carrier and i gave him the baby bag. The argument is : i don’t wanna take this bag, I don’t feel like i need everything in here. We won’t be out long. You don’t know what you’re going to need, take the stroller so you’re not carrying a lot, better to be prepared than not, don’t take the bag then. Now he had an attitude. Moving forward ima just let him live and learn like I do my son but when shit doesn’t work out ima let him figure it out. Idk if it’s pride or what but if he wants this marriage to last, he’ll stop being so oppositional bc I’m over it. He asked what’s going on her feet? I said she has on socks. He said that’s not enough. Where’s her shoes? Well she doesn’t walk and has blankets but now you know what you need to buy her. He hasn’t bought her anything as of yet.

Set up a business and I REGRET it!

Guys I’m in need of a huge rant I need it to be private as you’ll understand as I explain.

So I had my first baby just over a year ago. I’m a self employed hair dresser and when I took a year off from my clients I knew it was a risk. I thought coming back bigger and stronger would help me engaged back with my lost clients and some did return to me as they are my ride or dies bless em! But I knew I’d have to do something huge to create excitement and a buzz. So I opened my own hair salon. I big step up after just renting a chair in another salon. It looks impressive and on paper it was my next step up anyway. Everyone always expected this is what I’d do one day.

However it’s no way near gone to plan unfortunately.

A lot less of my clients have come back to me.
I’ve spent a fortune doing the place up. It’s costing me an arm and a leg to run the salon as my rent is sky high (it is a very beautiful salon but who gives A F when there’s hardly no clients in it 😢).

It’s costing me so much that I also now don’t have the budget to advertise to try promote myself. Every penny goes on my childcare nursery bills or running the building.

I’ve tried renting chairs out to other hairdressers but nobody’s wanting to move or change salons right now. What with the cost of living crisis it has hugely affected how oftenclients can come for their hair doing and I’m not even the most expensive. So I also get why other hairdressers also aren’t looking to rock the boat and risk moving salons.

Before I had my baby I was fully booked for months. Now week by week I don’t know if I’ll be able to pay the bills.

On paper this should have worked. I’ve been a hair dresser for 12 years.
I took a step back to have my baby and during that time I didn’t appreciate how hard it would be to lure my clients back over to me.

I’ve spent probably way too much and I feel like I’ve well and truly messed up my life.

I don’t even know what the point of telling this to strangers on the internet is except this is like a huge secret. I’m so ashamed that my business has been a failure that I dare not admit it to my friends or family who are none the wiser. Only my husband knows the truth. I’m having to fake it to make it. I’ve lost 2 stone with the stress and worry and bottling it up inside.

I’m not even a silly business woman, everything was done with financial planning and was thoughtfully planned out. But that was all well and good when I thought the clients would return. I’m wanting to try to promote myself through social media as it’s free but it’s just not working that well.

Im devastated. This is the biggest secret I’ve ever held in.

How would you feel?

My husband wants to email my therapist about concerns he has for me so she can work on them with me. He keeps saying that I’ve lied about everything since we’ve met but I haven’t. If he questions you and doesn’t believe what you say then in his head it’s automatically a lie. I can’t post the rest of the screenshot but I basically told him I know he’s gonna email her anyway so go ahead and do it. It’s probably some HIPPA law against that anyway so I doubt she would reply or acknowledge the email. I feel like if you want to fix our relationship call a couples counselor not my therapist that I’ve been working with for 4 years. I just feel like this is another way to control me. He’s already moved me away from my family and friends and I feel isolated what’s the point of emailing the one outlet I do have. How would you feel if your husband or partner did this?