Not sex related but marriage related.

We’ve been married for almost a yr now and our baby is 3 months old. I have a son from a previous relationship and when I say the one thing in common they have is the fact that these men feel like they know everything and don’t need help from me with these kids but the minute something happens, now it’s babe help! How many times have you taken your baby out and stated you won’t be out too long but yet you were out for a while longer and felt unprepared is enough food, pampers, etc? I have and i always try to make sure I’m not. My husband doesn’t like strollers and this is the second time he’s ever been out with our baby alone. He uses the carrier and i gave him the baby bag. The argument is : i don’t wanna take this bag, I don’t feel like i need everything in here. We won’t be out long. You don’t know what you’re going to need, take the stroller so you’re not carrying a lot, better to be prepared than not, don’t take the bag then. Now he had an attitude. Moving forward ima just let him live and learn like I do my son but when shit doesn’t work out ima let him figure it out. Idk if it’s pride or what but if he wants this marriage to last, he’ll stop being so oppositional bc I’m over it. He asked what’s going on her feet? I said she has on socks. He said that’s not enough. Where’s her shoes? Well she doesn’t walk and has blankets but now you know what you need to buy her. He hasn’t bought her anything as of yet.

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If this is his first baby, I think give him some grace, a lot of men like to be involved but don’t really know how to, and so since for us females it’s in our blood to be maternal to just see it for what it is, it can be very challenging. I think as well, have your vehicle prepared with a caddy and essentials so the bag comes with but not really and that stressor dies down.

Marriage isn’t easy babe, but I don’t think this is called for a divorce. Comunícate to comprehend not to get yall point across. And if you can’t see each others pov and the moment that’s okay.. revisit later

Oh I give this man a lot of grace more than anyone in my life. I’m very patient with him but lately EVERYTHING has become a battle. Sometimes I feel like I’m talking to my son. For them not to be related, they act just alike and it’s stressing me out bc what he expects from my son, he doesn’t for himself. I want him to be involved and he really is but when it comes to important things, if it doesn’t align with him then it’s a battle. I don’t believe in divorce and we’ve been in this thing for too long so I’m not thinking divorce but I do feel like ima lose my shit one good time. It’s his little comments that make me wanna end him but I don’t. Usually our communication is top tier but lately idk. Sometimes I feel like I have 3 kids instead of two.

I have an “emergency kit” in both our cars, a few diapers wipes outfit, etc. But in general, beyond that, if something happens it’s his responsibility to handle as a parent too. If he doesn’t wanna bring it, that’s a him problem.

yeah that’s how I feel and when I said that he said “really don’t do that” nah foh go about your business

Update: he’s been gone for maybe 30 mins with the baby he’s at his moms and she doesn’t live far already asked when’s the last time I fed her and how to use the bottle warmer. Maybe JUST MAYBE if you didn’t check out so much when I speak to you then you’d know shit. Maybe JUST MAYBE if you downloaded the app I have and synced to it, you’d know shit about your daughter and wouldn’t have to ask me. Only reason why he’s with her out is bc I’m going to the dentist. Don’t get me wrong in this post he’s a good dad and still learning but unless it’s things for him or intimacy the husband/partner role has been slowly switching off.

That’s crazy but if he not gona listen then let him learn the hard way when he needs something from the bag and don’t have it with him he gona have to come back for it and besides you should know since u have another child from a previous relationship

Lexi the emergency bag I call it a diaper bag strictly for the car so if my husband needs something for the baby there’s a bag in there already lol

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