Is it right????
Hey there! I’m a sahm.. I need advice.. my husband and I gotten into a fight about “communication” since he works all the time and is on work calls all the time. Well I kinda kept my distance with everyone but fake smile for my babies for 2 days because I recently been feeling alone and I had family drama with my own, he’s been asking what’s wrong I told him that he’s always on the phone when you’re home (he works out of town a lot and home on weekends) and he said he’s not always on it and got upset got up and left the room but he came back got more into a fight..well I told him fine go leave then, ik I’m wrong to tell him to leave which he did and I’m dealing with postpartum rage/depression, but I made an appointment with a doctor to help my health journey but anyways I called him the day he left saying how sorry I am I got no calls back and his mom called me saying he needs to take a break so now when I call him he put me on silent mode, at this point idc about the fight he has 2 girls 1 is 5 and the other 8 months old, he hasn’t called me to check up on the girls nor gave me money I have $125 cash thats it, I’m home alone. My anxiety is finally calming down but dealing with a teething baby and keeping a 5 year old busy is hard. I called him again to tell him I am sorry and being home all the time is hard and the rage and to forgive me on my part but he’s completely silent, I also have a bubble marathon run on Saturday but Friday I have to register in.. I hope he comes home but the no talking is that strange??
Struggling today
I am really struggling with small things that will set me off.
For the most part, I'm a super composed, super organised person. I discipline my kids effectively and calmly and try not to shout. My kids are well behaved, healthy and my eldest is a great sleeper , my youngest still wakes at least once a night.
However, with my spouse , anything little will set me on edge
E.g Both kids in bed at 7.30 pm last night. He went out with his friends but baby woke up like 4 times before 11pm so I didn't get much prep done for today. He got up with 3yr old at 7am , giving me time to get ready. When I went down with the baby at 7.30pm , he's shoved the breakfast pots in the sink, not even attempted to empty dishwasher, grabs his breakfast and goes to work.
Now, I know he gave me time to get ready, but if it was the other way round& I'd do the dishwasher, the bottles , put the washing on (which literally just needed stsrt pressing) and feed both kids breakfast.
It's not that he doesn't pull his weight, he does .
It's easier to not get mad when he's not there because then I KNOW I have to do it myself.
Also a container of snacks me and my son had homemade fell out of the freezer and cracked all over the floor and that sent me over the edge and i cried in the car
I just feel like dad gets to play all the time and I feel like I have to do all the boring stuff.
I am not slagging off my spouse, I just want to know does anyone else feel luke this .
Is it part of being a mum?
I ferl lije I have no tolerance for anything not going to plan anymore
I am also going back to work (in a different place) next week and I know I am anxious about that
