Bil godparent?

I dont get on with my bil at all! We are civil to each other but when we see each other now but when I had my first baby he was horrible to me and even said he had no respect for me as a mother (because I said no kissing my newborn)
This was a few years back!
My partner is close to his brother and ive got a feeling he will definitely want him to be godparent to our next baby but im just feeling bit off about it.
I rarley see my bil and when we do its just very basic chat! Im still upset how he treated me but im willing to put it behind me..I guess I just wish he would say sorry

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And it is so refreshing seeing someone willing to put hate aside to make the family happier and closer 😍 its not easy

Someone that said he has no respect for you as a mother because you don’t want your newborn to get RSV or herpes? Absolutely no chance that would be a godparent for my child

How is he as a parent? Because it’s not really about you, it’s about your baby. Putting the animosity aside, do you think if you and your partner were gone he would shower your baby with all the love and affection he/she deserves?

letting go of animosity is always good when we can, but he needs to apologise. it's totally contradictory for him to be a godparent to your child if he says he doesn't respect you as a parent. your partner shouldn't tolerate that either and should be demanding the apology on your behalf imo.

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