How do i get my 3 yo to stop lying? :(

Shes 2 y and 10 m so shes almost 3, but she keeps lying and ive done timeouts but it's not changing anything and i genuinely don't know what else to do.

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It’s developmentally appropriate, she should outgrow it! check out brat busters podcast on it and soul care for families on IG :)

We have something called the lying face where I look at them and they can’t hold a straight face. Think it depends on the lie and it’s the behaviour behind the lie. My daughter once stole money from my purse. Then she said her friend gave it to her. Shes school age. So the consequence of that was for her to be without the iPad for 40 days which is the amount I found in her purse and she couldn’t have play dates for a while. She’s also when a lot younger said her brother wrote on her wall when it was clearly her or hit her when he was upstairs.

“lying” is developmentally appropriate at this age (“lying” in quotes because she actually doesn’t understand the difference between truth and lies yet so she can’t technically lie yet). can you give examples of what types of lies you’re concerned about?

What sort of things is she lying about, I don't know if she's a bit young yet for this behaviour....

Lying is a milestone, she has learned that you dont know everything she knows. Ignore it, make a joke of it, make a game of it, but punishing it is a bit like punishing a baby for learning to walk

I definitely wouldn’t do timeouts because they’re not effective in general. Lying is actually a developmental milestone that means they can hold two thoughts in their head at the same time. It’s honestly really not something to worry about too much. Keep your response boring and just tell them what you know to be true. “Hmm, I still see your blocks on the floor, looks like you didn’t pick them up yet, let me help you with that.”

Even if she is actually “lying” at this age it’s not like she’s trying to deceive you the way an adult would be.

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