Grandparents

Both. But should never be one sided from either side. E.g. I moved to England from south Africa. I often video call my dad with my little one and I do plan on going there once finances are better. He's coming to visit her this month (for perspective this can be a 12-14 hr flight and then still multiple hours of train journeys from London to where I am). My partners father lives in Liverpool so about 2-3hours away depending on your mode of commute. He still hasn't been to meet our daughter and has never once video called her. I'm not going to run after him to involve him in our daughter's life and force a relationship where he's not bothered having one.

Yeah it sounds like he CBA. Let him blame whoever all he wants. If he's not making the effort the only person who's fault it is that he's missing out is his own

Like said: both, but not one sided.

It’s baffles me that some grandparents make little to no effort to be in their grandchildren’s/adult children’s lives.

I used to be intentional about going to see my parents, but it wasn’t reciprocated. It’s hurtful, especially seeing other families around me have grandparents uproot and move several hours away to the same city as their children/grandchildren.

When we told my parents I was pregnant, my mom was excited, but not for us. For her. She was finally getting the “grandma” title. Not even an hour later she casually mentioned that “by the way, I’m NOT going to be a babysitter”

I’ve never ask my parents for anything so I’m not sure why they’d ever get the idea I wanted to abuse the relationship by having them babysit. Funny thing is my grandma watched me almost daily for a period of time in my childhood.

Now both our parents are in their mid 70’s and we see the each a few times a year, only when I visit them.

Both. As someone who moved a lot growing up, other countries, my grandparents would come visit and vice versa.
We live 20 mins drive from my in-laws, and they've got limited mobility, so we go see them and video chat.
My mum passed almost 3 years ago, but I talk about her. My dad and stepmum live over an hour away, so we video chat and they come to us or we meet in the middle

I don’t

Depend on the situation I mean I would travel to see my grandson but if your elderly and can’t get out then I would hope my children would bring them to me.
I have been involved in my grandson life from the day he was born and all ways make the effort to see him and my daughter would make the effort to come see us so we have a bond with my grandson now and I would do anything to keep that

My parents live five minutes away and show no interest in seeing my kid, so I also don’t make the effort. But if both parties want to be involved, then I think it should be both.

Both, it shouldn't be one sided.
My parents live 1000+ miles from us and they come visit every few months and we go visit them every few months. That way the burden doesn't fall on one group.
However, my MIL rarely comes to see our sons and she only lives an hour away. She only sees them if we bring them to her for holidays/special occasions.

I think it’s both. I moved away from my family and they come see us and we go see them.

My therapist told me that children need good parents more than grandparents, and that I shouldn't feel bad; because the most important people in a child's life and development are the parents, not the grandparents

I always go back and forth to see my mum but we are close and rely on each other even now and she has done so much to help me with my kids I couldn't manage without her in my life.

My dad however? Came to see me when my daughter was born and he lived far away, but when I was in the hospital which was 5 mins away from where he lived when my son was born and he didn't even come visit before we came home that was it he and his wife are heavy smokers and their home is a mess so I wouldn't want my son there anyway. So no it's not my responsibility in my opinion to make the effort.

It should be mutual, not on either party only. It also depends on the health and such of the parties involved. For example, some grandparents can’t make long trips. So it would be kind for the parents to fill in that gap and be understanding.

It’s a 2 way street even if u can’t visit all the time my daughter a phone call away life happens sometimes but I don’t feel like it’s my job to make sure you maintain a relationship with ur grandchild yk where she at yes I’ll come visit but you can do the same