40+2

Im soooo miserable, impatient and completely over it now. Someone HELP me 🤣

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Do you mind your partner watching porn?

Right, I want no judgements lol!
So, was doing morning feed with baba and he went to sleep. My partners phone was glaring at me, I trust him 1000000% in no way would I think he would cheat, but if I’m being real I’m a nosey mf and like to have a snoop🤣.
So first I read his and his mums chat, nothing exciting, a few minor comments from his mum but nothing I’ve not heard before 🤣.
Then I decide to go through his photos just to see if there’s any of baba on there that I haven’t seen. Lo and behold there’s a few porn videos on there.
Me and my partner last had sex when I was 4 months pregnant, I’m 5 months pp now. We’ve done things but I’m just scared of having sex now, I’m scared of the pain, of it feeling different and getting pregnant again but tbh that’s a whole other story lol!
What I’m getting at is I feel like I should be annoyed but I’m kind of not as I know I havnt been having sex with him and people have needs.
Would you be annoyed?

Maternity Pay

I am receiving payments from DWP as I am self employed on maternity leave but have now worked over 10 keeping in touch days and need to let them know to cancel my payments but can never get through on the phone. I think I’m going to have to write to them but do I list the days I’ve worked and will they check these as I think I’ve gone over - some days just doing a couple of messages to clients etc and some actually working but only for a couple of hours or so 😬 I’m scared if I inform them and they check I’ll need to repay some and I can’t afford to do this.

Friends

I feel like I’m failing my kids it’s so hard for me to make genuine friends. I have a few childhood friends sure but they’re not mothers. I can’t seem to make any friends for my kids and I don’t want them to be a loner. Everytime we go to the park I’m being told by my son how much he can’t wait to play with his new friends 😔

WWYD

So Im in a situation where Im best friends with someone online we’ve never met but have been friends for three years anyways we used to talk like everyday and play on the game together everyday, she was in a relationship and left that relationship and her apt with him to be with another man and they shortly moved in together. During that time I was a bit harsh on her for what actions she was taking as I didn’t agree with it. Since then we don’t talk as much and since she’s been with her new guy she always tells me she’s been busy at work, but whenever I talk to her she’s doing something with him or on the game with him. I feel like at this point Im begging for her friendship because I am always first to text/check up. It’ll be weeks and she doesn’t check on me. As well as sometimes she doesn’t respond or responds super late/never just holds a convo for more than 5 mins. It’s honestly hurting my feelings I don’t have a lot of friends and I’m sensitive so I tend to take things personally.

MMIWG2SLGBTQQIA+ ???!

Okay I support all these groups but extending the acronym again is NOT helping the cause 😭

Back to work

I’m back to work on Tuesday 😭 going back on my usual hours ( part time ) from my previous baby it’s only Tuesdays Wednesdays and Thursdays but I’m still dreading it. When do you go back ?