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I’ve been feeling a bit emotional lately and just need some reassurance. My son is 20 months old, and whenever we’re at my parents’ house, he always wants my sister and not me. Today, even at home, when he woke up from his nap, he cried out for “aunty” instead of me, which really hurt. It made me start wondering if I’m doing something wrong or if he doesn’t want me anymore. I think it’s hitting me harder because I’m also pregnant with my second baby.

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It could be from how often he’s seeing “aunty”. Don’t take it to heart, as a jealous person myself I completely understand. But babies tend to cling to whoever fascinates them at the moment or allows them to do and have what they want. You’re still mommy and you can absolutely reinforce that if need be! You’re doing great💓

Aww! As someone who was an aunt before becoming a mom, this warms my heart. I’m so glad he has a good bond with his aunt. I know it’s hard, but this is totally healthy and normal and does not mean your little one doesn’t want you anymore!! He will ALWAYS want his mom!

It’s probably because in his world it’s unthinkable that you’d never be there so why would he need to miss you? I’m sure it hurts, but maybe it’s a good sign that he’s so securely attached to you that the idea of being anxious for you is just not in him.

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