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If you have someone else in your mind other than your baby's father and if that person was also interested in you. But since you've realized that you were pregnant you had to cut the connectors with him. As that person was very angry with you then he also got his girlfriend pregnant. Since you love your baby so much and she needs her father, would you wait till she's old enough before contacting that guy or just leave it as it is?

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Why did you have to stop talking to the other person just because you’re pregnant?

Hehe were y'all cheating w eachother or ??
Ok ..so is he still with his baby's mum tho?? Or you dk and just wanna look for him?? It really depends on your relationship w your baby's dad and what you want. Remember there's a baby involved so choose wisely. Deek will always be there but your child is growing so choose with them in mind.

So you were dating someone and got pregnant by him, but another guy who was already taken, was interested in you and because you were pregnant, you cut him off. So in retaliation and out of anger, he too got his girlfriend pregnant. Now that you’ve had your baby, you’re wondering if the other guy is still interested in you - have I got that right?

If so, it’s not this other guy you need, you need a therapist. To explore why you were even interested in an unavailable man in the first place. Why were you so willing to be a side chick if he already had a girlfriend? Why do you even want a man who was “very angry” that you, a woman who he is not dating or married to and has no say in your love life, got pregnant by another man? Why would you want a controlling man with anger issues?

If you’re not in love with your current partner, let him go. You can co-parent without having to be in a relationship with him.

I wasn't dating that person. We were working in the same company and he was chasing me for 2.5 years before we were actually getting closer. Then I found out that I was pregnant from my partner who I've been with for 10 years. We now have a 5-month-old daughter. Once I knew that I was pregnant I requested to work from home just not to get more confused about my feelings. That guy and other people didn't know that I was pregnant till it was close to my maternity leave. Someone else from work told me later that his gf was pregnant. After I left for the maternity leave he resigned from the company and deleted his profile from LinkedIn.

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Do you mind your partner watching porn?

Right, I want no judgements lol!
So, was doing morning feed with baba and he went to sleep. My partners phone was glaring at me, I trust him 1000000% in no way would I think he would cheat, but if I’m being real I’m a nosey mf and like to have a snoop🤣.
So first I read his and his mums chat, nothing exciting, a few minor comments from his mum but nothing I’ve not heard before 🤣.
Then I decide to go through his photos just to see if there’s any of baba on there that I haven’t seen. Lo and behold there’s a few porn videos on there.
Me and my partner last had sex when I was 4 months pregnant, I’m 5 months pp now. We’ve done things but I’m just scared of having sex now, I’m scared of the pain, of it feeling different and getting pregnant again but tbh that’s a whole other story lol!
What I’m getting at is I feel like I should be annoyed but I’m kind of not as I know I havnt been having sex with him and people have needs.
Would you be annoyed?

Maternity Pay

I am receiving payments from DWP as I am self employed on maternity leave but have now worked over 10 keeping in touch days and need to let them know to cancel my payments but can never get through on the phone. I think I’m going to have to write to them but do I list the days I’ve worked and will they check these as I think I’ve gone over - some days just doing a couple of messages to clients etc and some actually working but only for a couple of hours or so 😬 I’m scared if I inform them and they check I’ll need to repay some and I can’t afford to do this.

Friends

I feel like I’m failing my kids it’s so hard for me to make genuine friends. I have a few childhood friends sure but they’re not mothers. I can’t seem to make any friends for my kids and I don’t want them to be a loner. Everytime we go to the park I’m being told by my son how much he can’t wait to play with his new friends 😔

WWYD

So Im in a situation where Im best friends with someone online we’ve never met but have been friends for three years anyways we used to talk like everyday and play on the game together everyday, she was in a relationship and left that relationship and her apt with him to be with another man and they shortly moved in together. During that time I was a bit harsh on her for what actions she was taking as I didn’t agree with it. Since then we don’t talk as much and since she’s been with her new guy she always tells me she’s been busy at work, but whenever I talk to her she’s doing something with him or on the game with him. I feel like at this point Im begging for her friendship because I am always first to text/check up. It’ll be weeks and she doesn’t check on me. As well as sometimes she doesn’t respond or responds super late/never just holds a convo for more than 5 mins. It’s honestly hurting my feelings I don’t have a lot of friends and I’m sensitive so I tend to take things personally.

MMIWG2SLGBTQQIA+ ???!

Okay I support all these groups but extending the acronym again is NOT helping the cause 😭

Back to work

I’m back to work on Tuesday 😭 going back on my usual hours ( part time ) from my previous baby it’s only Tuesdays Wednesdays and Thursdays but I’m still dreading it. When do you go back ?