Feeling so awkward

So im 38wks pregnant and have 2yr old with my husband.

I dont want to miss out on time spent with him so have ended up going along to a soft play today with them both.

However, I fele like such a spare part, bored out of head, wish I never came. Im just sat on my own aimlessly scrolling on my phone. As they are both all over the place and by the time I find them they are gone again as our toddler is so excitable bless him.

He's having a great time. But I feel so sad sitting here wish I stayed at home 😪

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Totally empathise with you being so heavily pregnant. I’m 2 weeks pp with babe number 3 and I felt so guilty at the end of pregnancy because I couldn’t keep up with my little tribe. Also got a 3 and 1 year old. My best advice is to suggest doing something you can do without the issue of not being able to keep up. Maybe go for some lunch after soft play? And ENJOY your time as a 3 because it could be any day now that you become a 4 and these are the moments you don’t get back. Good luck! X

I had a completely different mindset. We always take my 4 year old to soft play etc and when I was pregnant, (baby is now 6momths) I lapped it up being able to just chill for an hour. Obviously I wanted to be playing with little one and partner, having that family time, but equally, we had so much other quality time at home and it was very rare that I was able to just sit back and chill in the pregnancy, it’s so different being pregnant second time round and it can be really taxing, you’ll be back there before you know it. But for now, enjoy it. Xx

Thanks, I just feel like i could cry, just pointlessly sitting here. No idea where they are again, they came back but my little one ran off back into the bigger section instead of the toddler bit, atleast if he was in the toddler bit I could go in too & watch him run around atleast, I just feel so awkward sitting here not being able to do anything, saddest thing is my hubby thinks this is great as hes giving me a break 😭. It is sad not being able to keep up, I think ill try think if stuff i can actually do as well on days we can spend together in future, atleast our little one is having fun i guess x

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So is divorce the solution ?

I’m not the same women my husband married and I don’t see myself being her ever again. If I would have known before…. How much I would change… I probably would have put more thought into getting pregnant and having a baby and not done it. However we are here now and I absolutely love my baby more than anything. I feel my husband lost his wife he married as I don’t even recognize myself anymore. I see our sex life is gone and I don’t feel as free to do much anything other than being a mom. I’m not managing week I’m coping as best I can with the huge adjustment and it make me want to just raise my child without having the pressure of being married… I cannot beg ive my husband what he needs and wants and frankly he can’t give me what I want sis just too much. Regardless I have fallen more in love with him I’m just disappointed we can no longer have the lifestyle we had before it’s not sustainable for me as a mother.

Am I the asshole here? What should I do?

Ok, so I need some mum advice please. I’m 33F and mum to an adorable 5 month old boy. Over very much become the default parent in our house. My finance (M36) works full time while I work 3 days a week and stay home the other 2 week days and look after our son. I am also currently enrolled and studying at university to get my degree. I don’t mind being the default, the reality is I spend more time with our son, so it makes sense that it would naturally happen. But today I tried to have a conversation with him about how I feel like I’m drowning in the mental load of running our house and looking after our son. I said to him that I needed him to just listen to me, and try to not get defensive because my goal was not to attack him or make him feel like shit, just that I need him to try and understand that it feels like I’m doing most of this on my own. For context, he does not take initiative at all when it comes to our son or housework. He relies on me to tell me what needs to be done, like when feeds need to happen, or naps or what kind of solids he can have, when bedtime needs to happen (which involves him having a shower with our son each night) he’s never the one to instigate these tasks. And from a housework point of view, about the only thing he “owns” is mowing the lawn and even then that happens rarely. I do the cooking and cleaning, I wash our bedding, do all the grocery shopping and make sure the animals have food and their medications.
Anyway, me asking for no defensiveness did not work and he immediately got angry that I would even bring it up. Whenever I have tired to have conversations like this in the past, it’s inevitable that he will bring it back to money. That’s his reason “you don’t understand the financial stress I’m under, I work full time so that I can pay our mortgage and the electricity and gas and water bills”. And this is true, I don’t contribute financially to our mortgage or the utility bills, but I do pay for our sons childcare and 90% of the groceries including formula and nappies, as well as all the babies clothes and accessories like bottles, his toys and bedding.
I don’t feel like what I’m asking is unreasonable. Today he told me “you’d be homeless if it wasn’t for me” and that nearly broke me. I don’t feel like I have a team mate or a partner in this anymore, it feels like he expects me to just lump it because he pays for the house and I should be grateful. I don’t have any family support in the same state as us and I have no close friends here either. I don’t know what to do. Am I being unreasonable for wanting him to contribute more at home?

When do the breakdowns at nursery drop offs stop? 😭

This will be her second week at nursery, and she only goes 2 days a week, but my daughter screams and cries and tries to cling onto me every drop off, even though they'll send me a pic every time of her being fine within 10 mins of me leaving, and then she's fine for the rest of the day too. How long did this phase last for everyone else? She's never really been away from me so I was kind of expecting it lol

My husband said this and not sure what to say or how to help..

I don’t feel like i’m a good Dad, don’t think I’m cut out to be a Dad & i hate myself for it

Has anyone else been in this situation and did it get better with time? Baby girl is 16 months and wasn’t planned