When do the breakdowns at nursery drop offs stop? 😭

This will be her second week at nursery, and she only goes 2 days a week, but my daughter screams and cries and tries to cling onto me every drop off, even though they'll send me a pic every time of her being fine within 10 mins of me leaving, and then she's fine for the rest of the day too. How long did this phase last for everyone else? She's never really been away from me so I was kind of expecting it lol

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For my daughter who went 2 days a week from aged 2, it took 3.5 weeks to calm down. I always made drop off short and sweet, stayed positive and said I would be back later. She used to go in screaming and crying and then as soon as I was out of sight she would stop and play with her friends. I was also positive and happy at pick up, told her I loved her and missed her and asked about her day. I always told her what was coming the night before and always spoke about nursery positively to help get her excited.

Its hard but it does pass. X

No advice as I'm in the same boat im afraid but is she more clingy with you at home? My partner drops mine off and picks him up (as I'm working) and he is so clingy with him ever since, crying whenever he leaves the room. It might be because he was sneaking away. Hoping that improves too but the advice we were given is have the same drop off routine - quick kiss, goodbye and say you'll be back and eventually they will get confident that you will be back for them.

It feels so bad :(

It took my daughter 5 weeks to settle ❤️

I’m in the same boat little boy goes in 2 days a week 8-1 and majorly kicks off he’s been going since January and is still very unsettled

My little one has been going to nursery for 1 month now - we still have tears on drop off but within half hour she is eating breakfast and is her happy self and then has a great day at nursery. The dropping off is still tough, but I know that she will have a good day and that the crying doesn’t last too long (still gut wrenching leaving her though!) 😊

My 4 yea rold has been going. 5 days a week but only for 3 hours a day and the first few weeks was crying. Then she settled. Then they have half terms and it all starts again. Last term she was really bad but she comes out so happy .its hard but they do enjoy it.

My 3 year old son still cries at drop off (hes been there a year). But he’s always been an emotional child. The nursery find it funny because they say as soon as the door closes he stops and goes to play 🙄

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When do the breakdowns at nursery drop offs stop? 😭

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I’m a little nervous about this.. my mil wants to take my daughter overnight on a Disney trip for her and fil birthdays, my daughter hasn’t ever spent the night over at their house. We’re not far so it’s weird that hasn’t happened, before she turned 1 they were always like “soon” or “you get a little bit older and you can spend the night.” She’s 18 months now and still hasn’t spent the night, again we’re not far so it’s a little weird that it hasn’t happened yet. But now in 2 weeks they want to take her on this trip overnight and we’re 2 hours or so away from Disney, so if she doesn’t settle or something then I’ll have to drive 2 or more hours away to help out or bring my daughter home. At first I was so excited, I haven’t had a night alone since she was born, I know that should be typical when you have a child but I still got excited with the thought of it. But now thinking about it I think we need to try a trail run before at their house, depending on how they all act then we’ll go by that for the Disney trip. Thoughts?

My husband said this and not sure what to say or how to help..

I don’t feel like i’m a good Dad, don’t think I’m cut out to be a Dad & i hate myself for it

Has anyone else been in this situation and did it get better with time? Baby girl is 16 months and wasn’t planned

When do the breakdowns at nursery drop offs stop? 😭

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