What do you think about this?

I’m a little nervous about this.. my mil wants to take my daughter overnight on a Disney trip for her and fil birthdays, my daughter hasn’t ever spent the night over at their house. We’re not far so it’s weird that hasn’t happened, before she turned 1 they were always like “soon” or “you get a little bit older and you can spend the night.” She’s 18 months now and still hasn’t spent the night, again we’re not far so it’s a little weird that it hasn’t happened yet. But now in 2 weeks they want to take her on this trip overnight and we’re 2 hours or so away from Disney, so if she doesn’t settle or something then I’ll have to drive 2 or more hours away to help out or bring my daughter home. At first I was so excited, I haven’t had a night alone since she was born, I know that should be typical when you have a child but I still got excited with the thought of it. But now thinking about it I think we need to try a trail run before at their house, depending on how they all act then we’ll go by that for the Disney trip. Thoughts?

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PPD and betrayal

My husband told my sister in law and her wife about my post partum and intrusive thoughts. She said she’s a mandated reporter and threatened to call on me if he didn’t get me help. Here’s the thing, I already received help and am feeling great. I feel betrayed by my husband. I trusted him telling him my thoughts a couple weeks ago and he went and took it outside of our home. I’m pissed at her that instead of calling me or offering assistance her first thought was to report me. I feel so betrayed. I didn’t know any of this was going on until my mother in law called me today asking if I was ok and then explaining why.

So is divorce the solution ?

I’m not the same women my husband married and I don’t see myself being her ever again. If I would have known before…. How much I would change… I probably would have put more thought into getting pregnant and having a baby and not done it. However we are here now and I absolutely love my baby more than anything. I feel my husband lost his wife he married as I don’t even recognize myself anymore. I see our sex life is gone and I don’t feel as free to do much anything other than being a mom. I’m not managing week I’m coping as best I can with the huge adjustment and it make me want to just raise my child without having the pressure of being married… I cannot beg ive my husband what he needs and wants and frankly he can’t give me what I want sis just too much. Regardless I have fallen more in love with him I’m just disappointed we can no longer have the lifestyle we had before it’s not sustainable for me as a mother.

do you take advice like criticism?

sometimes my family make suggestions or give me unsolicited advice about things like the clothes of my baby (too tiny or too big, too warm or too cold), or even his sleep schedule (how much, where, when should he sleep) and I can't help but taking it a little personal. My mom says I shouldn't, it's not about me, but I genuinely hear "you are a bad mom" "you aren't doing a good job". I don't want to be egocentric but can't help it...😓 any advice? How do I change my perspective and stop taking it like criticism?I'm I the only one?
(I'm 21 yo, I think that's also a big factor on how people treat me)

When do the breakdowns at nursery drop offs stop? 😭

This will be her second week at nursery, and she only goes 2 days a week, but my daughter screams and cries and tries to cling onto me every drop off, even though they'll send me a pic every time of her being fine within 10 mins of me leaving, and then she's fine for the rest of the day too. How long did this phase last for everyone else? She's never really been away from me so I was kind of expecting it lol