First birthday & in laws

My sons first birthday is coming up and I really wanted it to be just me and his dad, it’s a special moment and a first I’ll never get back. I mentioned to my husband that I didn’t want anyone coming in the morning so we can have it as a three but he really disagrees.

To put some context behind this, my in-laws live down south & us Yorkshire. So whenever they come up they stay with us for a few days-week depending and for my sons birthday it’s going to be the same thing. They will be staying, which I don’t mind but i was going to ask if they could come up for mid day so we have the morning together and they can still see their grandson on his actual birthday. (Mother in law already invited herself months ago anyway) I love my in laws but I can’t help but feel like I have to share all my babies first, they were here at Christmas too which again was a special one! I don’t feel like I can be 100% myself around them despite it being 6 years MIL I have to repeat myself like 10 times and the conversation just doesn’t flow.

Am I being unreasonable? I don’t know, but my husband is really annoyed with me for even asking. I don’t see the issue as they’ll still see him, and all he said was after all they have done for us etc (which is nothing more than a normal family! Does that mean I have to share everything with them if that’s the case?!)

What would you do in this situation?

in our community

what would you do?

I work as a cashier at Walmart. Yesterday I saw a mom and a dad in their 30's, with 4 kids, stealing A LOT of groceries. I didn't say anything, but my coworker saw them and told me to call the guards. I told her I hadn't seen anything like that, and she just stared at me like I was a terrible person and called our supervisor. He told her it wasn't our job to check who's stealing, and if the guards didn't noticed we shouldn't do anything.
Would you have said anything????

who’s in the wrong??

need unbiased opinions here because i’m just in awe rn of how im being made out to be a horrible person. did a grocery delivery today, $300 of groceries i paid for, i brought inside with the help of my 3 year old, i put them all away by myself, portioned all my meats, organized my freezer + fridge + pantry all by myself while he slept until 3:50 in the afternoon. crazily enough i heard his phone volume start up as soon as all the groceries were up. almost like he was back there pretending to be asleep to get out of helping. whatever. he wakes up finally, my kids have both had their requests, spaghettio’s and chicken & noodle soup, i waited for him to get up so i figured we could eat a little something together and watch a show. nope. he gets up, i tell him everything we have and he proceeds to say to me “so just a bunch of frozen food?” he asks about the little frozen tacos i bought because he loves tacos, taquitos etc. i tell him and all he says back and i QUOTE is “sounds like a bunch of bullsh!t” i said oh. okay. shut the freezer, i went and got some queso out the fridge for myself, warmed it up in a bowl in the microwave, grabbed my tortilla chips and ate because at this point if you’re just going to be an AH, i’ll eat and you can figure it out. he realizes 40 minutes have gone by and he has no food because he never told me what he wanted. he tells me to just enjoy my food and i obviously don’t care about him because he was under the impression i had made him something. i told him exactly what he said verbatim and he tells me that’s not at all what happened, that when he asked about the tacos, i should’ve known and made the tacos. i laughed in his face and told him i don’t read minds and the kids communicate what they want to eat something to eat, so it’s crazy that a grown man can’t. he gets mad, gets dressed, takes the kids and leaves me here all alone in silence.

Is it normal to hate your MIL

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Just need to vent i wanna cry

Hi ladies. I really want to say something to someone but not sure who to talk to. Long story short, my husband works 2hrs away from home, and he is doing good there so we’re moving closer to his job. That means we have to sell our beautiful home and move into a smaller apartment in NY. I am so sad but I don’t want to tell him. He is so excited he won’t have such a grueling commute and he will also have more time to spend with our son and me. I know its whats best for our family, but I am so sad to leave NJ. I love it here. We have our own home, I loved my job, we had a yard our son could play and we could entertain. Now we’re losing that, and Im getting sad 😔. I don’t want to tell my husband because I don’t want him to feel bad or anything, as this is a good thing for him, and our family in the long run. Opinions welcome but I just really kind of needed to tell someone else, I guess 😭

Problems with husband

I’m feeling so distant from him………he seems always upset at me. Tries to push for sec all the time. Even after my clearance from the doctor it was still uncomfortable and he thought I was just making it up. Literally talks to me like I’m a piece of shit. He’s got so many girls in things shaking their asses on his instagram and I can’t have any guys on mine. I’m not the girl who has people he’s uncomfortable with on any social media. I’ve always respected his wishes. I try to get as much as I can done in the house and it’s never good enough. There’s so much more too. My stress is on maximum with him and I’m just not happy anymore!
Sorry for the rant! I just don’t know what to do?

I feel like the tablet is hindering my sons speech...

We let him watch it all day when he doesnt have school. Monday through Friday he watches it after school all day after school. I guess I dont know how to be there for him. The toys I do have for him he doesnt want to play with them when its just me and him. He does play with his toys when its him and his dad. But he knows or always wants me to turn on the tv or give him his tablet. Idk how to be there for my son... any help?