Is it normal to hate your MIL

Yep! Feel the same way. It’s not easy but I try to think positively.

Ditto my friend!! I feel the same way!
And it's very much the, I will take your baby, you can do everything else when she is there, and makes it seem like she is doing me a big favour by taking my baby girl out of my arms.

I clicked no but it was a mistake!

I’m not sure it’s “normal” but definitely feeling the same way. From her telling me I was “huge” or “massive” every time she saw me while pregnant to telling me to hand over my baby as soon as I see her and not giving him back until it’s time to leave it’s hard to not feel some resentment. I hope it gets better for you and she learns some boundaries!

I hear ya , before we moved I used to look forward to seeing my in laws on weekends. Now that we live on the unit above them , also owned by them I feel that she always has to tell us what mat to use , how to decorate our house . Technically it’s their house so their rules . But I miss that about the condo , which they also owned but didn’t often frequent.

We moved to get help with our baby , which I don’t get much help . They just lecture us to play with her. Oh we don’t see her enough. . Like she’s not a dog , come over whenever. But hey I’m the free one and they are “busy” with a “schedule”. I’m basically supposed to leave my baby with them and do my chores and errands , but when I call and ask for help they often discuss among them who is to help me . So I’ve learned to do things solo.

That’s my current thing , so for my peace I started going down every 2nd day . Plus my MIL loves to compare my baby to others .

My husband doesn’t say anything but I have no choice but to set

I’m so sad to hear so many mums are having issues with their MILs overstepping. I get on with my MIL just as much as my own mum (maybe because I have known her since I was 13). I do also prefer to give the baby to my MIL so I can get on with bits and have the freedom to move about a bit, shower, cuddle the dogs, eat a meal. Maybe I’m just weird 😅

I get on really well with my MIL but I feel her constantly at my house and free roaming it like it’s her own house is overstepping. She wanders into our bedroom to put stuff down on our nightstand and I just feel it’s too much. I know she probably think she’s helping but I don’t want her to, I want her to respect our personal space. I do want her to feel comfortable in our house, but not that comfortable…. lol

It depends on what you mean by getting too involved or too at home.

If my MIL came in and made us both a cup of tea- winning, she feels comfortable in your house and is happy to help.
If she came in and started doing housework, tell me what to do etc- definitely over stepping and some firm boundaries need to be set.

Its hard why you have a new baby as what they perceive as trying to help is way too much.

My MIL has no boundaries and does that same stuff but I just see it as more of an annoyance. I wouldn’t hate her for it

I don't think there's normal or not normal... It depends on many factors but I think communication is super important. Set healthy and nice boundaries. Some DIL are really not welcoming for their in laws despite them trying and sometimes MIL are just too much. Both are supposed to consider each other family and to communicate with each other to make things works.

Hahaha just loved the title

I think its really important you communicate this. So something along the lines of I really appreciate that you want to help us out so much however, I would like you to let us know when you want to visit so we can make sure our plans align. Additionally while I appreciate you feel comfortable enough in our house to do house work I woild prefer you didn't. I would love for you to continue to feel comfortable enough to make cups of tea and the occasional snack/lunch- however this is our home and it is our job to keep on top of our own housework, if we ever feel we need some help with this you will be our first call to aid us. We would love for you time here to spent reading, playing and loving our children- please let us know if during this time they are behaving in a way that you find uncomfortable and we will deal with this in an appropriate manner.