Is it normal to hate your MIL

Is it normal to both get on with your MIL yet also hate her because she gets herself too involved and makes herself too at home in our own home?!

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Yep! Feel the same way. It’s not easy but I try to think positively.

Ditto my friend!! I feel the same way!
And it's very much the, I will take your baby, you can do everything else when she is there, and makes it seem like she is doing me a big favour by taking my baby girl out of my arms.

I clicked no but it was a mistake!

I’m not sure it’s “normal” but definitely feeling the same way. From her telling me I was “huge” or “massive” every time she saw me while pregnant to telling me to hand over my baby as soon as I see her and not giving him back until it’s time to leave it’s hard to not feel some resentment. I hope it gets better for you and she learns some boundaries!

I hear ya , before we moved I used to look forward to seeing my in laws on weekends. Now that we live on the unit above them , also owned by them I feel that she always has to tell us what mat to use , how to decorate our house . Technically it’s their house so their rules . But I miss that about the condo , which they also owned but didn’t often frequent.

We moved to get help with our baby , which I don’t get much help . They just lecture us to play with her. Oh we don’t see her enough. . Like she’s not a dog , come over whenever. But hey I’m the free one and they are “busy” with a “schedule”. I’m basically supposed to leave my baby with them and do my chores and errands , but when I call and ask for help they often discuss among them who is to help me . So I’ve learned to do things solo.

That’s my current thing , so for my peace I started going down every 2nd day . Plus my MIL loves to compare my baby to others .

My husband doesn’t say anything but I have no choice but to set

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I work as a cashier at Walmart. Yesterday I saw a mom and a dad in their 30's, with 4 kids, stealing A LOT of groceries. I didn't say anything, but my coworker saw them and told me to call the guards. I told her I hadn't seen anything like that, and she just stared at me like I was a terrible person and called our supervisor. He told her it wasn't our job to check who's stealing, and if the guards didn't noticed we shouldn't do anything.
Would you have said anything????

who’s in the wrong??

need unbiased opinions here because i’m just in awe rn of how im being made out to be a horrible person. did a grocery delivery today, $300 of groceries i paid for, i brought inside with the help of my 3 year old, i put them all away by myself, portioned all my meats, organized my freezer + fridge + pantry all by myself while he slept until 3:50 in the afternoon. crazily enough i heard his phone volume start up as soon as all the groceries were up. almost like he was back there pretending to be asleep to get out of helping. whatever. he wakes up finally, my kids have both had their requests, spaghettio’s and chicken & noodle soup, i waited for him to get up so i figured we could eat a little something together and watch a show. nope. he gets up, i tell him everything we have and he proceeds to say to me “so just a bunch of frozen food?” he asks about the little frozen tacos i bought because he loves tacos, taquitos etc. i tell him and all he says back and i QUOTE is “sounds like a bunch of bullsh!t” i said oh. okay. shut the freezer, i went and got some queso out the fridge for myself, warmed it up in a bowl in the microwave, grabbed my tortilla chips and ate because at this point if you’re just going to be an AH, i’ll eat and you can figure it out. he realizes 40 minutes have gone by and he has no food because he never told me what he wanted. he tells me to just enjoy my food and i obviously don’t care about him because he was under the impression i had made him something. i told him exactly what he said verbatim and he tells me that’s not at all what happened, that when he asked about the tacos, i should’ve known and made the tacos. i laughed in his face and told him i don’t read minds and the kids communicate what they want to eat something to eat, so it’s crazy that a grown man can’t. he gets mad, gets dressed, takes the kids and leaves me here all alone in silence.

Bad idea or good idea?
Going to Europe (Paris, Amsterdam, etc) (1-2weeks) with a 2,5 year old?

It’s been my dream for years. We were booked to go but then Covid hit, now we have a child. My husband thinks we have to go while we have money and availability. And I think spending so much money and going on a non-vacation (because it won’t be fun or easy with a 2,5yo) is a waste of money?

Has anyone done it?

Is it normal to hate your MIL

Is it normal to both get on with your MIL yet also hate her because she gets herself too involved and makes herself too at home in our own home?!

Just need to vent i wanna cry

Hi ladies. I really want to say something to someone but not sure who to talk to. Long story short, my husband works 2hrs away from home, and he is doing good there so we’re moving closer to his job. That means we have to sell our beautiful home and move into a smaller apartment in NY. I am so sad but I don’t want to tell him. He is so excited he won’t have such a grueling commute and he will also have more time to spend with our son and me. I know its whats best for our family, but I am so sad to leave NJ. I love it here. We have our own home, I loved my job, we had a yard our son could play and we could entertain. Now we’re losing that, and Im getting sad 😔. I don’t want to tell my husband because I don’t want him to feel bad or anything, as this is a good thing for him, and our family in the long run. Opinions welcome but I just really kind of needed to tell someone else, I guess 😭

Angry & sad

I’m 3 months post partum & absolutely adore my little boy. I have the most wonderful supportive partner but I am constantly angry at him & feeling sorry for myself.
I know it’s normal in a way, but sometimes I am just so upset and get angry so easily.
I just feel resentful that he can sit and have him time when I am just not getting the chance
Please tell me this will pass as I’m hating myself being like this

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Going to Europe (Paris, Amsterdam, etc) (1-2weeks) with a 2,5 year old?