What is everyone planning or done in the past when it comes to shaving downstairs for labour and delivery. And if it’s not shaven when waters have broken has anyone stopped to shave or planning on doing it. Just wondering…
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I don’t think I shaved before my induction because I didn’t have time but they didn’t force me to shave either.

Dude i stopped even shaving my legs after the first trimester 🤣

I had a wax before due date

I trimmed a bit before but overall it’s whatever you wanna do, the nurses and doctors see all hair levels I’m sure

I had severe preeclampsia and went into preterm labor, which was stopped, then a week later they broke my water to induce me. I had to get my grandma to help me try to shave my legs a bit and I was sooo patchy. But from my bp we didn't dare try to push it to be perfect. So as far as the lady bits? Naw, that shit was just rocking it bushed out because I stopped shaving when I got pregnant.

My waters broke and they gave me 24 hours to go in to labour so that night I shaved

i can’t imagine dealing with it growing back while postpartum that sounds miserable. is waxing an option?

I’ve never shaved anything. At all. Ever.

I personally was getting waxes pre and during pregnancy, and I waxed maybe 2 weeks before my due date.. luckily I did because I went into labour 5 days later and ended up in a c section so they didn’t need to shave me (they shave you if you haven’t) and I honestly think it helped loads x

I trimmed, cuz it bothered me but shaving is irritating

I shaved in case I had to have an emergency c-section. There was no freaking way I was letting someone else shave me.

I shaved at 36 weeks. I butchered it lol. Had to get out, and sit infront of the mirror. That was enough for me, don’t bother any further on is my advice after 2 🤪🤣

i got an emergent c-section, so the nurses shaved me... 0/10 experience, would not recommend, i got so many in-grown hairs and it was just unpleasant (cheap razers, quick job, incomplete and inconsistent)

I’m planning to keep up with my regular wax but let’s see how I feel about that later on. 12 weeks atm

My husband is officially going to take over in that arena... every week.
I just shaved and it was such a pain... Definitely the last time until after baby's here and I can reach and see stuff and things 🤣

In France they make them shave at the hospital if they come not shaved 😆😆
I had stitches so glad I shaved

I got a wax a couple weeks before because I also did have intentions to ask my sister to record the head engaging and the actual birth. One sister was up at my head giving me sips of water the other sister holding the phone and zooming in and recording lol like I asked 😂 I like having the births on record 💁🏻♀️

I’m 10mo pp and I can’t remember the last time I shaved lmao

The nurse shaved me before my planned section 😮 so embarrassing. I would love to sort a better option for next time 😅

I had a wax 2 weeks before my due date. Did the same with both my babies. Didn’t regret it at all. It made me feel better when there was 10 people looking down there and it also made birth/recovery less messy because there is ALOT going on down there without a huge bush getting in the way 🤣
Don’t worry what the doctors/nurses think though they will literally not care or even notice. They so used to seeing all sorts.

I got a wax with my first and second time round I didn't have time to get to the salon alone so I just used hair removal cream a few weeks before my due date.
I did read somewhere that shaving very soon before labour increases the likelihood of infection, I guess it is in case you cut yourself and it's not healed before it all goes off 🤣

Was o natural amazon women for my labour. They didnt care. They shaved a very small section for my emergency c section (like less then 1cm into my pubes because the scar sits quiet high above my pube line)

Doctors could not care less - don't worry about it. They're there to do a job and are not thinking about aesthetics.

I got my partner to go do a fresh number 1 when I was labouring with my first. Had to get him to tackle it between contractions 😂
Don't know why I bothered though bc the state of my pubic hair was the last thing on mine and my midwives minds.
Second just went au natural cos who cares

Wax 2 weeks before!

I couldnt see my lady garden to be able to trim! I must have looked like the skit out of Scary Movie with the hedge trimmers
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