Have no grace & kindness left

So my sons father..
We moved for years ago away 4 years ago, he gets majority of half terms and most of summer. If one gets Christmas the other gets birthday..
every year we seem to be in court cause it doesn’t suit him. First 3 years he didn’t travel to get his son at all. Now he only comes a hour down the road. Cause he was made to.
I try every way possible to make it as good for my boy as possible and I give him every grace and understanding possible.
But I have officially after nearly 12 years run out of graces, kindness and understanding.
You pay nothing for his schooling, nothing towards anything to do with his life, you begrudge paying to travel to pick him up a hour down the road. When we travel 3/4 hours.
I already changed this contact to suit you a day earlier when we are not meant to travel with my step kids. Yet we have. To suit you.
Today I’m picking my boy up, you’re sending someone else to bring him back like you have done since November. Cause god forbid you do it. And then you have the absolute cheek to ask for more, more and more to suit you going forward.
After once again for the 4th time lying to court and mediation that you’d be driving by the end of last year.

You lie, throw fits, and send others when you don’t get your way. When you do I still get crap and you still ask for more.
So what benefit does anyone but you get! Cause what you want isn’t in any interest of our son, some of it hinders our son.

So no I’m done, I’m no longer killing my sen, mentally, emotionally, financially to please you, there is a reason we are not together anymore, all of that was too much when we were together. It was unhealthy for our boy, and I’m not longer sacrificing our son’s wellbeing to suit your needs either. He’s nearly 12.

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Also anyone that bought any soft play blocks for climbing etc would you say they're worth it?

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Thanks 💗

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