does your LO have a preference on who puts them to sleep?

my husband says it’s not normal for our 1 yo to only want me to put her to sleep when we’re both home. she’ll cry and throw a fit if she’s sleepy and he tries to hold her instead of me holding her or getting her to sleep.

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It's normal, but also shouldn't be encouraged. If he's doing bedtime he's doing bedtime, they will work themselves out. If he needs a break fair enough but don't hover around or try to take baby away, that won't help his confidence

Definitely normal! Also normal for it to swing from one to the other. But as Rachel said above, stick with it wherever possible - “I hear you, you want mummy to do bedtime. I love being around mummy too. I’m doing your bedtime tonight, how about you choose our story?”

No but he was an EBF baby that we taught to take a bottle and a paci and for my own mental health I enrolled myself into a Pilates and Zumba class at 4m pp twice a week that starts at 7 which means by the time I come home baby is asleep and I’m home ready for the next feed at 11 or 1 when he slept a bit longer. And then if I friend invites me out on a Sat night every couple weeks then that’s another day he does bedtime.

my husband was not able to put my daughter to bed until she was weaned and in her big girl bed (age 2.5).

Now he does it every night!

I let my toddler choose and normally he wants his dad but he wants me to sometimes too

I think that is the most normal thing in the world!!!
Daddy can take over parts of the night time routine to stay involved and there will be times daddy is number one

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Pulsating neck?

Hello!
Has anyone had this with their little one?
Is it urgent or can it wait until monday for gp?
He is not in distress and breathes normally

Mum has asked to be at the birth and I said no…

I’m having my first baby in January and my mum asked me today whether I’d like her to be in the room alongside my husband for the birth of little boy. I could tell she asked because it’s something she really wants but I felt it was important to be honest and say that I really just want it to be my husband and I, but would absolutely love for her to be in the waiting room and the first to meet him after us.

I received a really hostile response back and she told me that her best friend witnessed her daughter’s birth and she feels like I don’t love her as much / im not listening to her feelings because I don’t want to go down that route. It then became quite a negative conversation around how she feels left behind and that I only go to her ‘when I need something’.

It’s made me feel really emotional and turbulent and it’s made me feel quite sad because I feel like she’s not listening to what I want and my boundaries but instead making me feel bad for what is ultimately my decision.

Has anyone had something similar happen? How did you navigate the conversation after?

Need advice

My 10 week old has always been very attracted to me from the start and early on when I put her down in the bouncer or the mat to play she woukd start to cry after 10-20 minutes. Recently its gotten alot worse to the point she starts to cry as soon as I lower her down or bring her away from me. The only time she's happy and not crying when im not holding her is nappy changes, she rarely does tummy time on the mat as she will just scream the place down (she does it on my chest instead).

Will she grow out of this or is there anything I can do to settle her when I put her down, ive tried toys, lights, singing, books but nothing works unless I pick her up. I feel bad that nothing gets done around the house or that I dont get 5 minutes to myself. Shes exclusively bf.

Is it worth it

Thinking of buying one of these for the little one. Are they worth it?
Mine just wants to sit up all the time but isnt stable yet

Owlet Sock Red Alert

Hi mums! Has anyone experienced their Owlet sock giving a red alert for oxygen levels dropping below 80%?

This has happened twice now with my 7-month-old daughter, both times while she’s been sleeping on her tummy. Each time I’ve gone straight in to check on her and she’s been absolutely fine - breathing normally, responsive and sleeping peacefully.

What’s confusing me is that the Owlet seems to work perfectly fine the rest of the night, and on other nights, showing completely normal oxygen levels. Even when I check the history after the alerts, her oxygen levels look normal, although I understand the graph shows averages.

She’s also recently had a cold and still has a slightly congested, runny nose, so I’m wondering whether that could be contributing.

Has anyone experienced something similar? Did you get your baby’s oxygen or breathing checked by a doctor, and was anything actually found? Or did it turn out to be false alerts from the Owlet?

Screaming only at night

Has anyone else experienced this with their little one? 🥹💗

My little girl is nearly 7 weeks old and during the day she’s generally absolutely fine, but as soon as nighttime comes around, it’s like a switch flips!

She screams and cries, sometimes for hours, and it feels like nothing I do settles her. I’ve tried feeding, winding, changing, cuddling. I even started her on infacol and giving her gripe water.

The strange thing is that it’s only at night! During the day she’s a completely different baby.

Has anyone else gone through this? Is it just a phase, witching hour, colic or something else? When did it get better for you?

I’m absolutely exhausted and have no idea what else to try.