Maybe im being extra?

I had my baby december 2025. We havent had sex since september 2025. It's now April 2026. Since about February I have been hinting im ready for sex, bought condoms (not a fan of pills) and like been pretty clear i want sex.

He claims he does too, but then when baby is down... hes already asleep. And he complains we dont have the time, but couples who want intimacy make the time right?

I should have added it had pregnancy pre and post complications where my kidneys lost all function and I nearly died 5 days post c section.

Am I asking too much for sex? Its making me consider finding someone else to take interest in me because in trying my best to be less fat and ugly post birth - getting facials, getting my hair done, being all nice an the response i get is him asleep.

He doesnt even like do the heavy lifting with the baby - i do it all. He had the baby today for like 2.5 hours in total. And on days he works it's less than 30 minutes. I do both day and night shift with the baby as well.

I just feel like since the baby im not attractive, or worth his time. I feel undervalued and unappreciated. And I have voiced this and he just doesnt respond or take it in. He even said "i said we could have sex but the baby was screaming at the time" in what way is that an appropriate time to tell me you wanna fuck? When im overwhelmed by a bay who wont stop crying?

Its just, I dont know what to do anymore. Ive lost weight, I make myself presentable i do EVERYTHING for him and the baby and I csnt even get sex when I want after nearly dying.

Sorry to rant but its hard work feeling like a milk maid and you have no other personality but being a mum.

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Okay so 1 if you are trying to be secure with your partner looking for attention elsewhere is never good. 2 voice your concerns to him first. Tell him you're okay. You said you did almost die 5 days pp so he could be worried about hurting you

Do you guys do other stuff other than intercourse?

I think He’s scared

Is he showing his affection in other ways? If so, but the only thing lacking is intimacy, is it possible that he's been affected by the birth as well and he's worried of any chance of another pregnancy since it was so complicated the first time?

I’m soo sorry you’re dealing with this I know it can be hard on you since you’re already postpartum and sex isn’t only for enjoyment it gives you security that your partner is ok with your body he accepts you as you are! I think for a new mom sex = acceptance
He might be worried about getting you hurt if you have an intercourse I think if it matters to him a lot he would also help you in chores so you get rest
I would say talk to him and tell him how you feel just say you need love and affection because being a mom doesn’t mean only giving love and care
Moms need love too & your partner is the only person who can give that love and security ♥️

If hes anything like my partner that guy just holds stuff in doesnt say much

He sounds exhausted

After reading all your comments I think he might just be purposely avoiding sex altogether. You'll need to talk about it seriously because at this point you're roommates with a baby

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Return to work 🥺🩵

At what age did you ladies go back to work after having your babies? ❤️

My little boy is 8 months old (almost 9), and I’ve recently been offered a really great opportunity to work for a company my friend works for. It’s an opportunity I’m genuinely excited about, but I’m also feeling quite emotional at the thought of leaving my little boy.

I honestly hadn’t really thought about going back to work just yet, as my partner has never once pressured me to find a job or even mentioned me needing to go back. I’ve been really lucky in that sense and have been able to enjoy this time with my baby without that pressure.

Now that an opportunity has come up, it’s made me realise that I might actually have to think about it, and I don’t know if I’m quite ready emotionally! 🥹

I know every mum is different, but I’d love to hear your experiences. How old were your little ones when you went back to work, and how did you find it? Did you feel ready, or did you struggle with the thought of leaving them? 💗

Sex just isn’t the same…

I used to LOvE sex. Was what my man and I would do anytime of day. I just had two babies back to back and now it’s just not the same. I don’t know if it’s postpartum or what. I hate my body first and foremost. I have never been comfortable with my body shape but after these back to back babies I feel like I still look pregnant so getting naked doesn’t feel sexy anymore. My husband says he loves my body, but inside I feel he just says it to make me feel better so I’m more likely to get freaky with him.
On top of body issues I’m F***ing tired! I’m a stay home mom for now (which is new, I have always worked) and with the constant go go go, crying babies, cleaning, stressing, shopping. I’m drained.
I hope things just a phase and I can become more sexually active with my husband. I do try to sleep with him to keep him happy but sometimes it’s just that.
Anyone else having these problems??

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Has anyone left a relationship with a baby? I’m struggling and I feel it’s the best thing going forward. It’s toxic. I feel alone.

Anyone wanna chat?

At work bored and would love some conversation.

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I just turn 40 last month. I noticed my period taking longer then normal to start. This month in particular my period is lighter then normal and when I think my period is finished it starts up again. Is there vitamins I can take or should I go on birth control to regulate my period. I also want to try for baby #2 . I'm taking neoQ10 and a prenatal. I got a blood test to check my hormones and thyro and everything came back normal. What can I do to have a normal period again ?

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Is there anybody free to talk?
I have so much on my mind,and nobody to talk to about it.