Maybe im being extra?

I had my baby december 2025. We havent had sex since september 2025. It's now April 2026. Since about February I have been hinting im ready for sex, bought condoms (not a fan of pills) and like been pretty clear i want sex.

He claims he does too, but then when baby is down... hes already asleep. And he complains we dont have the time, but couples who want intimacy make the time right?

I should have added it had pregnancy pre and post complications where my kidneys lost all function and I nearly died 5 days post c section.

Am I asking too much for sex? Its making me consider finding someone else to take interest in me because in trying my best to be less fat and ugly post birth - getting facials, getting my hair done, being all nice an the response i get is him asleep.

He doesnt even like do the heavy lifting with the baby - i do it all. He had the baby today for like 2.5 hours in total. And on days he works it's less than 30 minutes. I do both day and night shift with the baby as well.

I just feel like since the baby im not attractive, or worth his time. I feel undervalued and unappreciated. And I have voiced this and he just doesnt respond or take it in. He even said "i said we could have sex but the baby was screaming at the time" in what way is that an appropriate time to tell me you wanna fuck? When im overwhelmed by a bay who wont stop crying?

Its just, I dont know what to do anymore. Ive lost weight, I make myself presentable i do EVERYTHING for him and the baby and I csnt even get sex when I want after nearly dying.

Sorry to rant but its hard work feeling like a milk maid and you have no other personality but being a mum.

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Break up!!!

Hi, i thought i would never write this. But i am. I have nobody and i need some advice.

I am in the UK because my boyfriend lives here. We are together for many years. We have a 6 month old baby. I will not go into detail but i have to leave him.

I have a pre settled status and did apply for a settles one which im awaiting results for.

I am making my baby a british passport tomorrow online.

If we break up, i am so scared that he will try to take my baby. Please can someone tell me what will happen?

I really appreciate any advice.

Also, he is refusing to leave the house, we rent privately and both our names are on the contract.

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