Advice pleasee

I know the answer to this, but I really need to show my husband because he doesn't seem to understand boundaries or anything about postpartum and what women go through.

I had my little one last week. We asked his family not to visit for the first two weeks (because they live in a different country and would need to stay over). His sisters turned up outside our door uninvited TWO DAYS after giving birth. I was in so much shock and fuming - i felt completely violated. Instead of my husband being on my side, he stopped speaking to me for three days... I had just given birth, and he hadn't said a word to me.
He said I'm trying to cause "war". I'm bleeding, going through so many changes and needed him by my side - how am I causing war?
He sides with them for everything. They laugh and joke, and I get silent treatment, when I need him the most.
When it comes to them, I am always wrong and they are always right. He won't even try to understand or care about my feelings when his family are involved. It's been like this throughout my whole two pregnancies - I feel completely robbed of my experience of pregnancy. 😔

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My partner is the same and the first week after given birth I was having panic attacks because it was non-stop businesses and doctors appointments. He always puts his family before us when realistically it should be the way aroun

Every man needs to realise that their new family comes before anything else I don’t know why men struggle with this and always make their wife’s feel like shit. It doesn’t make sense why have a baby with someone if you are not gonna take care of them and their feelings, even if you don’t agree with how they feel you still need to be standing by them because otherwise what’s the point?

I'm angry for you. Your husband is being a child. I understand he probably misses his family and is excited to share this milestone but you need to be his priority. If they come that early I hope they at lest are helping: cooking, cleaning, making you tea, bringing you what you need. I'm so sorry he's being so awful to you. You're definitely not starting war, you're recovering and asking him to do his DUTY as a husband and be there for you.

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