Is this normal? 😅
Every time we try to go out and I say it’s time to put jacket and shoes on, it turns into the BIGGEST screaming and tantrum ever.
After we go out, throughout the day my little boy tells me “shoe off” and takes them off whenever he can.
I’ve tried different shoes, letting him choose, giving options, taking it slow, nothing seems to help. We don’t go out loads and he doesn’t go to nursery.
Has anyone else dealt with this? Any tips? Please tell me it is just a phase! 🤍
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We bought some new shoes for mine recently and had the same tantrum when we asked her to put those on. She'll wear her old ones fine, but not the new ones. I don't think they're uncomfortable - they're a bigger size than the old pair, and feel ok when we get them on, so it's really odd - they're pink with flowers so should be appealing!
Could they be too small / rubbing somewhere? Though probably not if you've tried several pairs...
Its just boundary pushing, normal but frustrating. Hold your boundary and follow through qith natural consequences when they kick off
My daughter is like that too. Today I had a jacket and a coat on outside and she was in just a tshirt. Put her coat on as her arms were stone cold and she was saying she was too hot and wanted to take her coat off again.
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