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guys am i out of touch?? am i heartless for not wanting his brother here anymore? am i so terrible if my daughter is anxiously attached to me? what am i supposed to do to help her not be?? i just feel so lost

These men that aren’t the default parent and then refer to it as anxious attachment because they’ve put no effort to be a safe space for their child, is disgusting to me. She will sense then environment you’re in, which is uncomfortable for you. And then tense with what you’re describing. I wouldn’t be asking yourself what you can do.
I’d be asking him, what he actually expects of a 1 year old, like genuinely expects her to be capable of and comprehend& If he actually thinks it’s okay for someone to vape next to a child with a growing… everything. Irrelevant to any feelings you may have toward said person you’re being forced to spend your days with. And how long with an exact date and a what happens if, when his brother will leave. (Personally if I have an end date, light at the end of the tunnel in sight. I do better with what I’m suffering through)

I like to make them feel dumb when they try to make me, or manipulate. My husband doesnt, but we’ve all been there.

Woah, the way he’s speaking to you is NOT okay. He is also putting his bum brother over his child and wife, which is not okay. My petty side says for you to tell him to go fuck himself, but I know that’s not helpful. I would give him an ultimatum and maybe give the brother 30 more days, but make your husband enforce rules and boundaries. He should respect your wishes and boundaries bc it’s your home, just as much as it is his!

Have you got anywhere else you can go and stay for a few days? Your parents / siblings / close friend? I would take your baby and a bag of essentials and get away for a few days. Tell him you need some space and that you’re not going to stand for him speaking to you like a piece of shit. His reaction to that will be a big tell tale of whether he feels any remorse or not. And if he shows no remorse, I think it’s time to reconsider your relationship with ship with this man.

IM SO SORRY BUT WHAT????? You mean to tell me you are breastfeeding in you house 24/7 with your brother in law around? Don’t get me wrong if i were you would have never allow another man YES ANOTHER MAN to my house while im in this sensitive situation! Your man is not being a head of the house protecting you guys which is supposed to be his first concern! Your child is 1 year old and he is not putting that baby first ? You need to find another places fr!

Imagine that’s the way your husbands speaks to you? Husband? I’d just make it so simple and leave myself. The end.

Tell him that his brother goes or you and your daughter go, that’s a big no 🫣

what a bum lmao i hope you find better than a man who’s text bubbles are green