mom guilt

any one have like extreme mom guilt over the little things?? i feel like a horrible mother sometimes because my kids love spaghetti ohs chicken nuggets and mac and cheese and often times they have those things multiple times a week. i see all those cool fancy meals people make their kids with avocado toast and blueberry muffins and all that and i look at my kids plates and feel like shit. my youngest looked disappointed almost with his dinner tonight and immediately the mom guilt set in. i tried taking my kids to the playground today with my husband and we left after 30 minutes because my husbands allergies got so bad he was having a hard time getting a deep breath in. my oldest started crying so bad when we told him we had to go home. i obviously didn’t place blame on my husband just said it was time to go but i felt horrible. we barely ever get out of the house and the one time we do it’s for barely any time. all those moms on tiktok or ig have all these cool adventures and fun activities and healthy but fun meals and im over here giving my kids the basics and feeling horrible for it

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honestly you’re being way too hard on yourself kids don’t care about aesthetic meals or what they see on tiktok they just care that they’re fed and loved. nuggets and mac and cheese is just real life not being a bad mum.
social media makes it look like everyone’s doing all these perfect meals and fun days out but it’s not real most of the time. no one posts the stressful bits or when things don’t go to plan.
you still took them out today and you cared when they were upset and you’re even worrying about this in the first place that already shows you’re a good mum who’s doing her best

I get it so bad too, the house was a mess yesterday and I felt awful for letting him play by himself so I got done with three rooms got exhausted and sat in the room with him playing with him. I wish I could have a clone lol but even then I'd feel horrible 😂

Those aesthetic moms have no jobs & i guarentee you do things off camera that youd never do to ur kids. No mom is perfect! Give urself some grace♡

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FTM HERE!

Has anyone offered there baby this yet my baby is 19 weeks old and showing every single sign of ready to start some food she sits up very well without wobbling with support and is constantly showing signs of hunger even after a bottle I have looked it up and apparently I shouldn’t give anything even if it’s from 4 months plus I know times have changed but just wanted to know if anyone has given there 4-5 month old food

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NO ONE does that where I come from. Potty training is seen as a longer, more organic process.

If you’re not British, can you say whether most people take days off to do potty training where you come from / where you live?

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How are you guys handling having to send your kids to daycare or having a nanny?
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