Different parenting styles

In my opinion, we all end up shouting every once in awhile but if his immediate reaction is to shout it’s teaching her that shouting is okay when it’s not. I think your approach to explain things to her is perfect. I would explain to him this behaviour is soo developmentally normal she has to go through this to learn what is and isn’t ok. From my experience as I kid being shouted at every time I pushed a boundary tried to learn what was okay, taught me to be timid when it came to the real world and put me in a lot of stupid situations. It really is that deep when you’re raising a child you have to think 5,10,20 years ahead.

Yes sort of except I think I’m the stricter one, I have to do most of the boundary setting, discipline, telling off etc, whenever my partner sets a boundary he doesn’t follow through, he does shout and he does have the stance of blind obedience which I don’t agree with, my kids are pretty well behaved for the most part and when it’s just been me and them most of the day I have a pretty easy time parenting, after I’ve left them with him they always seem so whiny and misbehaved

I’m in your exact same situation, had the same argument again today. When my son is doing something he’s not supposed to do I try to say no and explain (but he continues to do anyway) so my partner come and shout at him explaining and put him to sit so my son starts to cry. He says he will never learn to listen the way I act/speak to him…everytime arguing for the same thing!

I hope you aren't arguing about the differences in front of baby because that's just makes the whole thing worse.