Can your partner soothe your little one?

Hiya,

My baby is 11 weeks old and recently she didn’t settle with anyone but me. Has anyone experienced this before? If so how long did it last and is there anything you did to help the situation? I feel bad for my partner.

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Notning will fucking shut her up!!!

2 nights in a row my daughter isn't even crying it's just noise and it's constant! NOTHING fucking works anymore! I had 2 hours sleep last night and at the moment ive had around 3 hours I feel like I'm in the newborn trenches all over again and I honestly just want to kill my self because I can't be fucking arsed for this shit anymore!

My son was a dream from 2 months old. My daughter is just a completely different child! I can't I just can't do it.

It's fine for her Dad to fuck off downstairs to the couch while I'm just in bed trying to do anything I can to settle her which nothing works!! I don't wanna put her in bed with me because I don't want to get her into the habit of co sleeping, a bottle used to settle her and now it doesn't. Shushing doesn't work, patting her doesn't work.

She's 19 months

I want to die!!!!!!!

Postpartum rage

I need help. My daughter is almost 2 months and I'm currently I'm doing everything by myself cause my bf can't be in the shelter with me. The staff doesn't help at all. I am diagnosed with bipolar and multiple personality disorder. I'm currently struggling to keep my cool with my daughter. But it's hard. I honestly don't know what to. I love my daughter with all my heart but I'm scared of myself cause I don't have my bf here to help me with our daughter. I'm currently sitting in the corner crying

Plz help

Should I reach out to my mom?

I'm a 30yo ftm with a 6 month old little boy. I'm loving motherhood it's by far the best thing I've done in life.

That being said there is this one piece I keep coming back to that just stings. My own mother is hardly talking to me. She lives 10min uo the road and has only met him about 3 or 4 times all because I initiated contact.

I have cptsd and childhood trauma from my mother. Now I have gone to therapy I don't really hold anger towards her for it anymore I believe at this point my trauma is mine to heal I don't need her to solve it for me. Without going into detail she suffers from severe depression and put a lot of it on me growing up. So understandably have a hot and cold relationship.

We were in a good spot until about 3/4 of the way through my pregnancy where she totally flipped the script and started arguing with me about super old stuff that in my opinion just didn't need dug up (especially while like 7months pregnant) anyway this continued postpartum and it just sings extra ya know. Like she waited until I was again at a vulnerable point in life to cause arguments and take advantage of my vulnerability.

I'm just sad, I miss the way she is when she's acting normal, but I've tried to reach out and every time it's an argument.

What should I do?

Night feeds

I breastfeed my son. He's 2 weeks old and not back at birth weight yet. I wake him to feed in the night and on demand when he wakes. However. Tonight he has not fed much if at all. Just holds on to nipple or sleeps. I can't sleep as worried and keep trying to feed but he won't even attempt to latch.
I've got midwife tomorrow so I assume they will tell me ti formula feed as I'm failing st breastfeeding. I've tried the advice on how to latch and positions just doesn't work

Feel like a failure as a mom, it’s only been 5 days

Had my baby via C-section on 9 April. Because she was a C-section baby, she had fluid in her lungs after birth that she couldn’t get out so she was transferred to neonatal unit. I feel like that was my fault because I chose to have an elective section.
Jump forward 5 days. I still have no milk supply despite double pumping like 4x per day. My baby is off the ventilator, but there’s talk of putting her back on because she’s not at a high enough saturation level (92% instead of 94+). She’s also not independently eating because she refuses to wake up and either put my boob in her mouth or take a bottle, so they’re tube-feeding her.
Now, she’s my first. I want to hold her all the time because she’s my first and because I want skin to skin and because skin to skin is supposed to help my milk supply (except right now I just feel like a fucking cow). My husband had skin to skin with her last night when her oxygen was low but when I took her, her oxygen level went right back to where it should be (96-100). So I come in when I’m awake and available and pick her up to hold her for those reasons. Then around meal time, I undress her to try and get her to wake up a bit. All these things make sense right?
Well, the midwife basically told my husband while I was sitting there asleep and attached to the pump that I shouldn’t hold her as much and that skin to skin is important but like, so is keeping her warm. And I’ve checked her temp. She’s hot when I take her blankets off and I put a blanket on when she’s cold and my husband even agreed with me today she was warm.

I just feel awful because I feel like I can’t do anything right. If we were at home, it would be just me and him and everything would be fine. But I’m so scrutinised here. I just feel like such a failure.
Thanks for reading.

Constantly overstimulated I hate it

My baby is 5m and I hate the person I’ve become since being a mum. I’m so overstimulated all the time I snap at my husband for the smallest of things, I meltdown over seemingly nothing but I just can’t help it. I’m constantly being touched, hit, scratched, vomited on, hair pulled, screamed at. My brain is going to explode. Does anyone else feel like this? How do you cope?