MIL keeps planning to have a sleepover with my EBF 6 month old

hey 👋 some people, especially older generation, dont know the difference between simple no. they start to katch on when u become harsh, I know trust me, how hard this is for us mom to go against someone we care for X but u job is bonding with baby and ask ur husband to stand up for u by setting boundaries.

Hey, I'm so sorry you have to deal with this.

1. This is your partner's problem and THEIR job to deal with their own mother.

2. My mum is still harassing me about this 9 months on. I've said no and listed my reasons pfffffft surely it must be over 100 times by now. This started in my second trimester, mind you. Let them keep asking. The answer will not change. 💪

Stay strong and soak up every second with your little angel!

because later on she will not hear No from ur baby too!

they been broght up in harsh world! being kind, they dont see it how important ur words are! they just dont hear ur words kindly they because no one is angry! ur not their parent shouting at them to put then in survival ! I hope that makes sense!

6 months is far too young in my opinion! Just say no, like once you start feeding normal food and trying allergens it’s very important baby stays with you so you can notice any reactions that someone else mightn’t notice xx

Ah this is harsh luckily my MIL is super chill about this kind of stuff. But with my own mum I have already told her no kissing the baby especially as she suffers from coldsores and I've had pretty good and solid boundaries with her the last few years. I think you need to look her in the eye and say 'it's not going to happen, I understand you would like it to but I'm saying no' don't even feel the need to explain. But if you do just say "you are pushing our relationship beyond what is acceptable I've said no many times and you're showing you obviously don't have any respect for me as you are ignoring this"...and do this with your partner present as she needs to see him stand with you on this. Look you may choose to go a different way but honestly the best relationships I have are with people I am brutally honest and clear with.

This is for your husband to handle! You and your husband need to agree on boundaries with parents and for him to go to her and push back and handle those difficult conversations with her. And he needs to tell you BOTH don't want to have sleepovers yet not that is a you decision. So use language like " mum we have decided this won't happen for now"

It is in everyone's best interests that that's how the relationship are handled imo.
Like they might hate the answer but they won't be mad at their own son as much. However if it comes from you is more likely for them to cause long term issues.