Friends Ditching You During Pregnancy

Any other moms have friends completely ditch them during pregnancy? I have a few friends who I considered to be close with just ghost me since being pregnant. Like not even responding to my baby shower invite. It’s so hurtful. Have ya’ll been through this? How did you handle it? I’m having a hard time deciding whether or not to address it with them. Any and all advice welcome.

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Yes this happened to me with my friends cuz I was the only one in my friend groups to have a kid. I think it was after I couldn't attend stuff they invite me to since I had a fresh baby. They did meet her but after that nothing 🤷🏾‍♀️ Id just focus on making new mom friends!

My friends waiting till the day of my baby shower and or right when baby was born to ghost me. So after months of acting super excited about me having a baby now no one response to my messages. Thanks to this app though I’ve got new friends so idgaf.

It’s so interesting that this is a common experience. I’m sorry yall have had to go through this too. Makes me think it’s not even worth addressing with them. I don’t think it will make me feel better. Just gotta focus on those that have been there for me. Wild though. These were the bridesmaids at my wedding, we were tight!

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