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Soon to be 21 with a nearly 2 year old and 28 weeks pregnant looking for mum friends (can’t see waves) 🤍

in our community

Advice on only/multiple kids

I just had my first baby at the beginning of September. I’m turning 34 next week and have been struggling with whether we should have more children. We tried for a few years for our daughter so it wasn’t easy. And I’m not a dinosaur or anything, but I definitely feel that way when I think about having another baby in the next couple years 👵

At the same time, my step son who we have part time is 10years old so my little girl would be an only child. I had my little sister growing up and now we are so close. I know the beauty of having a sibling to grow with. I worry about her being lonely 🥺 Especially since I don’t have family or friends with kids close to her age or with children at all.

Any advice/wisdom?

Savings account

Wanting to open a savings account for my kids for when theyre older.

Any recommendations on which bank? I'm dyslexic so I dont understand the whole percentage / interest stuff.

Zero sex drive

Will it ever get back to normal? I’ll preface by saying my fiance is great, he’s doing as much as he can when comes home from work both with LO and with household tasks - laundry , cooking, cleaning. He’s trying to be supportive of me, telling me I am great mum, always tells me how pretty I look etc. But we are just in this roommate mode and don’t know when will that change. He sometimes tries to initiate but I’m not really interested in anything intimate. We have been not having penetrative sex since probably March as had some pregnancy complications with my placenta, just lots of hand stuff. Now I’m two months postpartum and we have done some hand stuff again but that’s it. I can tell it bothers him, but I’m just really not interested. During the day all my focus is on the baby, and in the evening when we home I just want to relax. This is obviously effecting the rest of the relationship and I feel like he’s starting to resent me. I just don’t know how to fix it? I don’t want to have sex just to fix stuff, but also know it most likely won’t repair without that part as well. When will I feel desire for intimacy again?

Im going to go ahead and ask it....

HOW YOU ARE YOU ALL FTM COPING? genuinely???

Curious to know:

Parenting alone or with partner
Bf or formula
Do you have a routine yet
Are you taking shifts
Are you/ partner working
How's LO sleep
How many hours of sleep do you get
General mood/wellbeing

Curious to know!!!!