Advice on only/multiple kids

We have struggled to get pregnant the first time around too but I do want a sibling for my son who is 3 now. I worry about him left alone in this world after we die and he will have someone to call family. We are struggling again but it will be worth it in my opinion

I have two siblings. I grew up so incredibly lonley, neither wanted to play with me. There isnt a massive gap between us either. So unfortunately having a sibling doesnt garantee theyll get on.

You can if youre worried about them being lonley engage in baby groups and finding mum friends with kids similar age to them. I engaged my daughter in a lot of baby groups and shes a little social bunny.

I totally get how you feel. It’s an ongoing thing me & my partner struggle with. He’s an only child whereas I’m one of five. He had a very lovely childhood with very close family friends, a great group of friends at school & the odd cousin and I had a very lonely childhood with no one really other than my siblings (I was bullied & my family moved around a lot so I wasn’t able to build life long friendships etc). Me & my siblings range from age 29 (me) to 40 (my eldest sister) and we’re now at a point where only a few of us get on. My two brothers don’t speak, I barely speak to my two sisters and only my sister speaks to our other sister. Siblings can have beautiful bonds that last a life time but that isn’t a guarantee. You’ll know what’s best for your family but just know that your child won’t be better or worse off whether they have a sibling or not. I used to feel so sorry for only children, now I don’t ❤️

baby turned three months on my 34th birthday. we were about to look into fertility testing when we got our positive. my husband is an only child and very much wants our daughter to have a sibling (or two 😬). We’re planning on trying for #2 when LO turns 1.
I have a younger sibling myself and while we fought growing up, she’s currently living with us and we’ve been super close since she was in high school. But I also know plenty of people that aren’t close with their siblings at all. it’s very much a personal decision.

we struggled for five years, did ivf and had our baby in April. i’m also 34. planning on transferring again asap! i want my baby to grow up with siblings close in age

Totally agree, siblings don't guarantee a best friend. My partner was an only child, loved it, and has tons of close friends!
Also, don't let society make you feel old at 34. I’m 38 and just had my first, so you’re defo not a dinosaur! My baby has no cousins her age either, so I’m just actively building our own little community.
Think about how do you feel about having a hard time trying again, while managing a toddler?
Also, when I'm overwhelmed (like exhausted at 3am or soaking wet after baby swimming 😅) I try think wtf does life look like with two in these chaotic moments, not just the good ones? But then again, people cope and happily!
Picture yourself like 5 years from now. Before finances, double buggies, and logistics kick in, what does your gut tell you? Trust that feeling and all the best whatever you do!

Have the kids. Being an only child sucks and having a huge age gap creates a distant relationship until they all grow up to be much older. When you’re gone, it’s going to be legacy and relationship to ground them. I’m a kind of only child and so is my husband. Huge age gaps in our family. A sibling with an age gap is better than no sibling at all.

Following for advice too as I have the same thoughts, my husband is super keen for another, I’m not against it but I just don’t feel confident and “ready”.. just fear of the unknown at this stage- my family are super close in general! I have two sisters and I can’t imagine life without them, and I want that for my daughter but I acknowledge that there are no guarantees.