Advise please!!

Any inputs on ofsted rated childminders in Pinner?

in our community

Puree pouches

Can someone enlighten me on why NHS advises against too many food pouches in one week? When they're organic and no added extras? It makes me feel really guilty/lazy for giving him them

Ever since the weather has been nicer my daughter (3 1/2) has been spending much of the day outside playing with neighborhood kids which I love!
I’m a little more concerned about the parents, these kids are mostly a little bit older than my daughter and mostly range from about 5-8 (although one is only 2 🙃) but their parents are never in sight and have never talk to us while their children play in our backyard for hours a day (houses back up to one another). The kids have no outside toys to play with (not sure why) so I’ve told them all they’re more than welcome to play with ours when we’re home.
But would anyone else feel weird about kids playing in your yard daily and their parents never even acknowledging you? Or is this just an age thing since they’re mostly older kids (although one is only two🙃)

Is this normal or do I just have a lazy partner?

My child’s father has been sleeping in the other room as I’m just so done with all the shit I have to deal with him. We are already on thin ice. I’ve voiced how I want him to actually be a partner and do his bit as a dad and work with me raising the kids, doing the shopping, cleaning the house cooking etc. he’s so lazy. This morning our three year old was really upset and didn’t want to go to nursery. He can hear this and I know he’s awake as I heard his alarm go off 20 mins before and know he’s just lying in his bed on his phone. Our daughter is being really difficult getting dressed but finally I manage. I then start doing her hair and when it comes to brushing her teeth she’s even more upset and crying. All the while he made himself a cup of tea, got himself ready and is sat on the toilet. I come out and start screaming at him why haven’t you helped as my stress levels are so high and he says well I’m driving her to nursery you’re not so you can get her ready. Nursery is literally a five min drive away in the direction of his work. Also I work too I just leave slightly later than them but have barely anytime to get myself ready when they leave. Is this normal or is this a bad partner?

Best friend of 15 years called me a desperate homewrecker. Thinking If I should let this friendship go or try to talk it out

My coworkers (male) birthday is coming up (Friday) and he has tickets to this comedy show and reservations to an extremely nice restaurant that he had made months in advance. He’s been talking about it for weeks and was so excited. He was originally going to go with his wife but she got into a car accident 2 weeks ago and had emergency surgery on her foot so she can’t go then today his best friend canceled on him( he was going to go with him instead). He was really down and depressed when he came into work today and he’s never like that so I asked what was going on and he told me how his friend canceled so I offered to go with him. He got so happy and went back to his usual high energy happy self. I called my friend to ask her to go to the mall with me after work so I can find a nice outfit she said that it’s wrong and disrespectful and that “you’re giving desperate homewrecker” then hung up. Me and him have worked together for 4 years and have formed a really close friendship (I’m his assistant). I’m a single mom and he has been nothing but great to me and my daughter. We go to lunch together, Iv met his wife, taken me to work then back home when my car was being serviced then paid the bill when he took me to pick it up, he has even gotten gifts for my daughter. He is really a good guy and is someone I really trust and have the most respect for him I would never jeopardize our friendship. Im so hurt by her comments and not sure how to bring this up to her or even if I should call her. It’s been a few hours and she hasn’t tried to text or call me so I’m thinking i should just block her and move on

Mum guilt

So just finished feeding my near 2 week old in bed, had my phone flash on so it’s not too bright so he can’t settle but bright enough for me to see. I sit him up to burp as he’s got reflux and he’s cluster feeding but I noticed my phone was close to shining in his eyes so stupidly, as he was sat up on my lap with my other hand supporting him, thinking I’ll quickly move it away, as I did that he flopped his head forward and as I went to catch him my thumb hit his nose and he started to cry and I feel so so terrible and my mind was racing like what if I broke his nose or something as he’s so delicate and I just kept saying I’m so sorry and kissing him and comforting him.

He’s ok and he only cried for a couple of seconds but I keep checking that he’s hurt as I just feel so guilty about it.

Thoughts?

If not using traditional nursery/childminder etc and have the Grandparents as your child care…

Do you expect them to do other small bits around the house, I.e washing up or putting in the dishwasher the bits they have used themselves or with baby throughout the day, hanging up some clean washing etc?

Also would you pre-prepare your little ones food for the day? Or would you expect Granny to make their lunch etc?