Moms need breaks too!

I’m a mom of a 19 month old and a 2 month old, since my youngest has been home I’ve been on maternity leave taking care of both the kids while my fiancé goes to work. About two weeks ago I started working again, not full time but doing part time 2-3 days a week for 6 hours each day . I bring my kids with me to work cause I work at a at home daycare my sister runs. So my kids are with me 24/7 . Usually when my fiancé gets home from work I give me about an hour of alone time before me or the kids even come down and “bug” him. Well today I asked him if he was ok with me going to the store by myself so I can have a little break… turns into a full argument. Telling me stay at home moms don’t get breaks (even tho I just started working again) telling me that he never gets a break and it’s just part of parenting even tho I give him plenty of breaks . I do dinner, I do bath time , I do bedtime, I do breakfast, I do everything! He only helps if I ask which I hate asking for help so I just do it or helps once in awhile . And he took that as me telling him he’s an abesent dad which I never said !! He helps when he wants but it’s just the fact that he said that is what pissed me off. Like I deserve a break, not just at nighttime when everyone is sleeping.. am I in the wrong here ? I just feel so mad at him rn and honestly it’s making me lose interest in him… like it turned into something that could have just been a conversation. It’s making me second guess our whole relationship 😩

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There is something sinister about my 3 year old boy.

I dont know how to explain it. When i look at him i dont feel the sane way as i do with his sibling. He has anger issues, he says things that leave me speechless, when he is angry he will things like when i grow up i will hit you with a hammer or when i grow up i will put you on fire and watch you die and i have no idea how he learnt this or where from. He only watches cartoons and he doesnt go to nursery/school. I cant love him the same way i do his sibling and i resent him alot. I really have to try my best to show equality. What do i do?

Is this normal or do I just have a lazy partner?

My child’s father has been sleeping in the other room as I’m just so done with all the shit I have to deal with him. We are already on thin ice. I’ve voiced how I want him to actually be a partner and do his bit as a dad and work with me raising the kids, doing the shopping, cleaning the house cooking etc. he’s so lazy. This morning our three year old was really upset and didn’t want to go to nursery. He can hear this and I know he’s awake as I heard his alarm go off 20 mins before and know he’s just lying in his bed on his phone. Our daughter is being really difficult getting dressed but finally I manage. I then start doing her hair and when it comes to brushing her teeth she’s even more upset and crying. All the while he made himself a cup of tea, got himself ready and is sat on the toilet. I come out and start screaming at him why haven’t you helped as my stress levels are so high and he says well I’m driving her to nursery you’re not so you can get her ready. Nursery is literally a five min drive away in the direction of his work. Also I work too I just leave slightly later than them but have barely anytime to get myself ready when they leave. Is this normal or is this a bad partner?

Was this rude and immature?

My brother, his partner and their baby came to visit us. We cooked fajitas. When my brothers partner got here she asked what we had for lunch. We told her we made fajitas. She started whining and complaining saying she doesn’t want that, and that she want rice and proper food. So much so that we put some rice on the cooker and my husband went out to buy her some plantain which we fried for her. Was she rude and childish for this?

How to give to 7m old??

So how would you give a sausage to a 7 month old? Solid starts says this but for example we have sausage and roasted veg quite a bit in our house as an easy dinner (fresh veg as well which is mainly what our baby has) but I like him to be able to do it himself - so am I being right that the only way you can give sausage is crumbled???

I swear my daughter was munching on whole sausages but I could be way ahead of myself here!!

My 4.5 yr old is still not potty trained and i am about to lose it

He is 4.5, and he doesnt care. We started potty training at 2 yrs old, so 2.5 years ago. He pees and poos in his underwear and sits in it for hours without telling me. The feeling of being wet and sticky from feces and pee doesnt seem to bother him. I am at my wits end. I wont know what to do anymore. I remind him every 30 min, every hour. Sometimes i take him to the toilet and he says theres nothing in my belly but 5 min later he will hide behind the couch to poop or pee freely as he is playing. I have tried every trick under the sun. Rewards, gifts, chocolate, punishment, consequences, etc. NOTHING is working. Please help. I feel like the older he is getting the harder its getting and he will be in diapers for the rest of his life.

Going out with baby and toddler

Any advice on this? I feel I’m stuck in the house since having a baby, and my toddler is paying for it. I have no confidence in going out myself and the two of them. Please any advice or tips?
My toddlers is feral, I’m just scared I couldn’t handle her or her tantrums or chase her around while having the baby in the carrier .