Lazy Husband

What do you do with husbands that are lazy but provide financially?. My husband provides financially but lazy asf when it comes to house chores, he says that’s woman’s job and so on.

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My fiancés the same way he’s not lazy though he works hard help with the kid sometimes but if I do a deep clean he won’t help maintain the clean house like he’ll make the floor sticky again just like a toddler after I spend 3-4 hours cleaning every room it’s so annoying but tonight I put my foot down and yelled at him about it he ended up mopping the soda but it was still sticky he genuinely can’t clean properly or organize so even though he made some changes I still had to re-mop myself 🤦‍♀️

Get them to pay for a cleaner if they're unwilling to do anything 💁🏼‍♀️

Reminder, they're not sacrificing anything by going to work... They would still need to live / cook / clean, without a family ?!

Same here. He'll cook on his 3 days off but thats all. Its exhausting having to do everything

I am two months PP and we’ve just hired a fortnightly cleaner. He does not lift a finger other than empty/load the dishwasher and wash the babies bottles. He does cook sometimes but only on his terms. He does work long hours and weekends and seems to think because he earns well, he doesn’t need to do anything around the house. Why are men so entitled!!!

I wouldn’t say mine is lazy. He just doesn’t see mess the same way I do, there can be stuff everywhere. Full sink of dishes, laundry piled up or toys covering the living room and he wouldn’t see an issue with it.
He will help when I ask him to or if I just straight up tell him to do something he typically does it. I have had to bust his balls a time or 2 but we were genuinely raised different. He is the middle child of 4 and I am the oldest of 6. Their mom did EVERYTHING FOR THEM and I had to do everything for my siblings.
He works overnights almost 6 days a week every week and gives me and our daughter everything we want or need so he gets away with it 🤷‍♀️

Idfw the whole “it’s a woman’s job thing” though I’d chew his ass out!!

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Puree pouches

Can someone enlighten me on why NHS advises against too many food pouches in one week? When they're organic and no added extras? It makes me feel really guilty/lazy for giving him them

How would you feel?

Ever since the weather has been nicer my daughter (3 1/2) has been spending much of the day outside playing with neighborhood kids which I love!
I’m a little more concerned about the parents, these kids are mostly a little bit older than my daughter and mostly range from about 5-8 (although one is only 2 🙃) but their parents are never in sight and have never talk to us while their children play in our backyard for hours a day (houses back up to one another). The kids have no outside toys to play with (not sure why) so I’ve told them all they’re more than welcome to play with ours when we’re home.
But would anyone else feel weird about kids playing in your yard daily and their parents never even acknowledging you? Or is this just an age thing since they’re mostly older kids (although one is only two🙃)

Jimmy Carr - fat, stupid kids

I'm fully in agreement with this. I think 'stupid' is a bit harsh but yeah, you gotta be a bit strict with your kids and be the one to hold the boundaries.

One of our family members has a son , who has since 3 yr old, been allowed to help himself to the snack cupboard where there is chocolate, crisps any junk food when he is 'hungry'. He drinks fizzy pop and juice.
There is no limit on screen time and he spends most days on his computer in his room.
He is probably 3 times his healthy weight, if not more.

It is really sad to see- he's statistically likely to be bullied for his weight and he can't keep up with kids his age.

They are both big too (but did not grow up that way) I just don't know why you'd want it for your kids.

And yes, you can think I'm being too judgy , but that's a kid's life and your parental choices have had a massive effect on his health and path in life.

Best friend of 15 years called me a desperate homewrecker. Thinking If I should let this friendship go or try to talk it out

My coworkers (male) birthday is coming up (Friday) and he has tickets to this comedy show and reservations to an extremely nice restaurant that he had made months in advance. He’s been talking about it for weeks and was so excited. He was originally going to go with his wife but she got into a car accident 2 weeks ago and had emergency surgery on her foot so she can’t go then today his best friend canceled on him( he was going to go with him instead). He was really down and depressed when he came into work today and he’s never like that so I asked what was going on and he told me how his friend canceled so I offered to go with him. He got so happy and went back to his usual high energy happy self. I called my friend to ask her to go to the mall with me after work so I can find a nice outfit she said that it’s wrong and disrespectful and that “you’re giving desperate homewrecker” then hung up. Me and him have worked together for 4 years and have formed a really close friendship (I’m his assistant). I’m a single mom and he has been nothing but great to me and my daughter. We go to lunch together, Iv met his wife, taken me to work then back home when my car was being serviced then paid the bill when he took me to pick it up, he has even gotten gifts for my daughter. He is really a good guy and is someone I really trust and have the most respect for him I would never jeopardize our friendship. Im so hurt by her comments and not sure how to bring this up to her or even if I should call her. It’s been a few hours and she hasn’t tried to text or call me so I’m thinking i should just block her and move on

Crappy baby daddy

Just needed a vent really I left my baby daddy due to abuse towards myself and towards my son not so much my daughter (he used to just get angry with her when she was being a pterodactyl in the mornings)
But since I’ve moved on with someone who makes me happy and treats me right my baby daddy has refused to bring my children home to me and is controlling how and when I can speak to them this is only ever on FaceTime and I can only speak to my daughter when she’s having bath time and my son when he’s in the car and if he tried to tell me any personal information baby daddy always mutes the FaceTime and or tells him to “shut up” i just feel so alone with it all. Rant over

Trust.

I’ve got a dilemma. I’m struggling with an issue I’ve had for a while well ever since we met 5 years ago (we have a child) . My partner acts quite secretive like for instance I don’t know the passcode to his phone
(never have) , if I ask to look at a photo he’s taken he sends me it rather than hand me his phone to look, he has a PIN number on his YouTube acc, his laptop and his PlayStation oh and also he wouldn’t download life360 as he felt I was checking up on him… I’m not overly jealous but don’t like it when he adds random female work colleagues he’s just met on his FB and insta as I see that as a sign of disrespect and just unnecessary.

I tried to talk to him about it but he just gaslights me. He sees nothing wrong in his ways and says it’s all in my head and I’m just insecure.
I just want to feel like he’s being open and honest and got nothing to hide. We have a great life together and I don’t want to spoil that but if he doesn’t change and become more open about this stuff then I don’t think I will be happy in this relationship… is this all in my head? Or is his behaviour odd?