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Do you sometimes report your husband to your mother-in-law when he’s bad bad?

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No because half of it was learnt from her 😩

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Well, I gave it a shot. I spoke with her about the issues my husband and I disagree on—specifically, why I always seem to be the one who has to give in more often just to maintain a stable and peaceful relationship! But she simply said she couldn’t offer any input... that she has to remain neutral. So, thanks a lot for your help and support! Consequently, I’ve decided it’s better to discuss these matters in therapy instead—rather than bringing them up with my mother-in-law or in-laws. My in-laws are absolute sweethearts—I love them dearly—but I’ve realized and understood that speaking ill of my husband to them only ends up making *me* look bad. So, I’ll just stop talking to them about it; I’ll handle it in therapy instead. That way, when I return home, I can focus on resolving things directly with my husband.

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Can someone enlighten me on why NHS advises against too many food pouches in one week? When they're organic and no added extras? It makes me feel really guilty/lazy for giving him them

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How would you feel?

Ever since the weather has been nicer my daughter (3 1/2) has been spending much of the day outside playing with neighborhood kids which I love!
I’m a little more concerned about the parents, these kids are mostly a little bit older than my daughter and mostly range from about 5-8 (although one is only 2 🙃) but their parents are never in sight and have never talk to us while their children play in our backyard for hours a day (houses back up to one another). The kids have no outside toys to play with (not sure why) so I’ve told them all they’re more than welcome to play with ours when we’re home.
But would anyone else feel weird about kids playing in your yard daily and their parents never even acknowledging you? Or is this just an age thing since they’re mostly older kids (although one is only two🙃)

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Is this normal or do I just have a lazy partner?

My child’s father has been sleeping in the other room as I’m just so done with all the shit I have to deal with him. We are already on thin ice. I’ve voiced how I want him to actually be a partner and do his bit as a dad and work with me raising the kids, doing the shopping, cleaning the house cooking etc. he’s so lazy. This morning our three year old was really upset and didn’t want to go to nursery. He can hear this and I know he’s awake as I heard his alarm go off 20 mins before and know he’s just lying in his bed on his phone. Our daughter is being really difficult getting dressed but finally I manage. I then start doing her hair and when it comes to brushing her teeth she’s even more upset and crying. All the while he made himself a cup of tea, got himself ready and is sat on the toilet. I come out and start screaming at him why haven’t you helped as my stress levels are so high and he says well I’m driving her to nursery you’re not so you can get her ready. Nursery is literally a five min drive away in the direction of his work. Also I work too I just leave slightly later than them but have barely anytime to get myself ready when they leave. Is this normal or is this a bad partner?

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Mum guilt

So just finished feeding my near 2 week old in bed, had my phone flash on so it’s not too bright so he can’t settle but bright enough for me to see. I sit him up to burp as he’s got reflux and he’s cluster feeding but I noticed my phone was close to shining in his eyes so stupidly, as he was sat up on my lap with my other hand supporting him, thinking I’ll quickly move it away, as I did that he flopped his head forward and as I went to catch him my thumb hit his nose and he started to cry and I feel so so terrible and my mind was racing like what if I broke his nose or something as he’s so delicate and I just kept saying I’m so sorry and kissing him and comforting him.

He’s ok and he only cried for a couple of seconds but I keep checking that he’s hurt as I just feel so guilty about it.

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Thoughts?

If not using traditional nursery/childminder etc and have the Grandparents as your child care…

Do you expect them to do other small bits around the house, I.e washing up or putting in the dishwasher the bits they have used themselves or with baby throughout the day, hanging up some clean washing etc?

Also would you pre-prepare your little ones food for the day? Or would you expect Granny to make their lunch etc?

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Are we in the wrong? Long rant…

So for the past week or 2, a bunch of kids on our street are running around and knocking of peoples doors, including ours. We’ve asked them many times to stop and even went up to the parents to ask them to stop bc it adds to the stress when the baby is ill and teething badly.

Today, my boyfriend has his day off and decided to wait by the door to see if they would knock again and surprise surprise they did so he went out and shouted at them saying that if they don’t f-ing stop knocking on people’s doors then he’s going to the parents and calling the police. I’m assuming the kids got scared and went to their mums since we received this message from one of our neighbours.

He apologised saying that the swearing wasn’t intentional, it just came out because he was so pissed off with them (mind you I have post partum depression and it wasn’t doing me any good) and he was getting tired of me messaging him at work complaining about them.

TELL ME WHY she replied with “it’s half term so they’re bored, you were a kid before so you know what it’s like and my baby nephew is in the front room with me and is teething and is absolutely fine so it’s not that bad”…

We were both so angry, we didn’t want to entertain it and just left it at that. But just because your kids are bored doesn’t mean you can allow them to inconvenience other people and all babies are different, like good for you that your BaBy nEpHeW is is fine, mine is absolutely horrible with a temperature and everything!

Sorry about the rant, but was we in the wrong for shouting at the kids after asking them on numerous occasions to stop? Did anyone else have any experience with this?

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