Sleep Fighting?

My baby daddy moves alot in his sleep. At first is was just tapping the feet and tossing and turning. It has escalated to elbowing , kneeing , and pushing me around and I can't take it. Tonight i was elbowed in the head twice, and when I got up to grab my glasses before I left the room (after he refused to apologize or acknowledge) he kneed me in the stomach . I am Currently 15 weeks pregnant and he still refused . While I do understand he is Sleeping and lots of people thrash in there sleep, I told him I would just go sleep in my own bed to which he responded ' you just
do that then" so he obviously wasnt that damn delirious. Lastly, he has also recently started drinking again after almost a year sober which may be a trigger for this and could be the reason I have less patience. I guess I am really just asking for advice, and everyone's thoughts on my next steps . Should this be a reason I leave?

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If you have got your mom or anyone that would be so happy to have you come stay with them, then go to them and give him all the space on the bed to keep tossing and turning.

Sometimes giving one space, give you and the other person enough time to think about if you want to continue being disrespected or valued.

Sending lots of love to you dear friend 💕💕

Sounds like it’s on purpose. But it’s normal to be uncomfortable and toss around maybe find comfortable things that help him sleep.. idk what you all tried.
You don’t have to tell him nothing. It can be offensive.. and that’s why he was acting defensive. You could have asked him what would help him sleep better at night to help him. If he has tried anything?
Just say hey I’ll be in the other room/couch to rest! So he doesn’t wonder why you just left. But don’t say it the way you did.. his response to that is not a surprise. I understand you were upset..if this is his normal and you knew of this.. you were already aware… I don’t know if a sleeping man needs to apologize but one thing I know is you* don’t force someone to apologize… they have to apologize to you on their own! If they don’t that is enough closure. That’s a redflag and you know that. You move out.. drinking? Another redflag. Third redflag? Because if there is… you leave for protection

P.s Remember you are pregnant so you are 1) moody 2) think about baby…relax.. 3) move out for now. Give some space like the lady above has mentioned.. 4) don’t sleep in the same bed. Irrelevant but I remember I was pregnant and it happened to me thankfully baby was ok but baby DID in fact feel it. Don’t sleep in the same bed!! Baby is not 200% protected in there. You don’t want to risk anything to happen. Also move back in when he stops drinking at least 24hours

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