I just feel like I’m failing

I’ve never felt so deflated and rejected in my life. This last week has just been horrendous. I had mastitis and now my 4 month old has been on a nursing strike all week so she’s hardly feeding. I feel like we used to have such a great bond, she was always smiling and chatting to me and now I just get screamed at most of the day while everyone else gets the smiles. What am I doing so wrong? Why does she hate me so much? I just don’t know what to do anymore because nothing is ever enough or seems right for her.

I just want my smiley, chatty girl back who would eat for the whole day if she was given the chance. I’m completely heartbroken

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Please know that you've done nothing wrong and that your baby does love you more than anyone else in the world.
Mastitis is horrible - you must be having such a dreadful time.
But she doesn't hate you, you are her safe person so she's expressing her tricky feelings to you.
Please consider seeing a private lactation consultant who is IBCLC qualified - I had such excellent help from one to get me back on track when I was struggling.
I hope someone there with you can give you a break or a cuppa and a hug!

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