Nursery help!

11 m baby boy did great in his settling in sessions. Only cried when I picked him up. But since starting properly this week it's been a nightmare. He's waking up earlier so a long wake before first nap , having 30 mins naps there so he's exhausted when we pick him up. They said he's crying and upset most the day, they cant put him down. I picked him up early today because he's so exhausted he's struggling.
I feel so so awful that he's struggling.
Does anyone have any tips or just reassurance that it will get better?

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Unfortunately this is very normal especially in babies, its a new environment, new routine with new people. It can have an impact on their emotions, sleep and eating. I used to work in nursery and its all completely normal. My LO is starting tomorrow and shes been so emotional during her settles, as a mum its horrible but as a professional I know its completely normal. Just remember he won't always be like this it'll just take time for him to get used to it all!! Xx

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It does get better. The separation anxiety is totally normal at first and has a massive impact on sleep. It can be really tough for you dealing with a tired cranky baby, I often find it takes a day for him to reset into his routine after a couple of days in childcare. 3 months in now though and it’s much better than it was

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I work in a nursery and have worked in the baby room, and have seen babies like this first hand , it’s hard on the child and the parents but honestly the staff are so used to it , as said before it’s a huge transition for your baby , you could try leaving something at nursery that he associates with you , a blanket with your perfume on , or something similar. It might help comfort him , it will get better x

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My little boy has started. He's 7 months. He's absolutely fine when I leave (probably because he's so little) but he won't sleep for them as we co sleep mostly and he will only have 30/40 for them where as at home he will have 2 hours so when I get him he's absolutely shattered. Red eyed and looks awful.
I race to finish work as soon as I can so I can get him to nap well at home but he often falls asleep in the car so we have 30 min on the drive lol

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It’s perfectly normal for this to happen it’s a big adaptation and transition and so it’s a lot going on for them and you too. My LO started just after she turned 1 and struggled however nursery said they were happy for her to bring her comfort item in with her and that helped massively. Maybe try a comfort item that your LO associates you with or something with your scent on. I promise it does get better as it goes.

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