Today i went to a cafe and a woman working in the cafe made a comment about my baby - said something like “shes a cheeky one, cries when i look at her”. My baby was crying so much as she looked at my baby so i was trying to console her and couldnt say anything back to her. But i said yes shes uncomfortable and she said “ill keep looking if she cries”. I was so angry that i just couldnt respond and took my baby away and later the woman disappeared.
I feel really guilty and sad about not being able to say anything back to her and not showing my anger in the moment. I also feel like i was not able to protect my baby from that woman although i took her away.
Has anyone had anything like that happen before and how did you manage comments like this?
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I am not great in situations like this either. You are not alone. I think it comes with time honestly. And if something happens like that again I would say so you would be ok if someone said something like this to you about your baby and they were uncomfortable? I would try to put the situation on them and make them think about their actions/what they are saying. You don’t have to show anger or be angry I think being logical and coming back at them calmly usually helps drive the point more.

Ooh sweetie don't worry about her .. is there any benefit from replying to her? Or fighting with her? These people need to be dismissed thats it ..
You know that she doesn't know your baby and in no place to make judgement .. forget about her and remember phrases like:
Maybe
Oh do you think that?
I am not sure
I guess we will never know
Were your babies like that?
Think of it as a ball of fire and you need to give it back to her or anywhere else .. and btw
The messenger of the creator (ﷺ) said, "I guarantee a house in Jannah for one who gives up arguing, even if he is in the right; and I guarantee a home in the middle of Jannah for one who abandons lying even for the sake of fun; and I guarantee a house in the highest part of Jannah for one who has good manners."
Dont let them miss up your day💐💐💐
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