At a lost

I think you should reach out. You’re not crossing any boundaries, you’re pregnant with his baby and just trying to figure out what’s going on. That’s completely valid. Just keep it simple and respectful, like asking if he’s okay or if they know anything. You’re not doing too much by wanting answers.
But at the same time, don’t put your life on hold waiting for one. If he wanted to make sure you were okay, he would’ve found a way by now. So reach out for clarity, but start preparing like you might have to do this on your own just in case.

Does he have any social media? You can usually find friends or family on there? And where did he work, maybe you can find his emergency contact if you ask the employer

I think that might be part of the problem as to why I’m hesitating to reach out what if he really has just up and left his baby. However that’s not what my gut is telling me. He was adamant about being in his child life even if that meant not being in mine and that all his kids have got to know each other. The day he’s phone went off he had message me in the morning with love hearts and the same energy. But I’m also like that doesn’t mean anything and in the end all of that could of just been BS

Well if he was arrested or something then I think his family would know and then you would be able to contact him wherever he is. If his family doesn’t know about you then you will also know that he probably up and left

the problem is that I don’t have social media which is why I don’t have him on it. I know he has instagram but don’t have a clue what his name would be on it. He worked for a construction site I know the area but couldn’t tell you exactly what the company was called as he tend to bounce around to different sites on a self employed contracts

Ooohhh that’s hard, I guess the friend is your only chance to reach out/: or if you like really really wanted to know maybe you could hire a private investigator but it depends on how far you are willing to go to get in touch with this man

Definitely reach out. If you are having a hard time finding a way to get in contact with the father of your child, you should most definitely reach out to the friend to see if they have any other ways of reaching said father. And if that doesn’t work, at least you can say you tried. Like really tried. And now it’ll be up to him to reach out to you. You could also ask the friend to try to reach out to the father as well and let them know you’re trying to reach them.

I don’t know where you’re from but I do know in South Carolina. All you have to do is look up the jail that hes at and down here all you need is the last name and it would show you if he still in or if he was release already. I don’t know if I explain that good. If not, feel free to reach out to me privately and I can try to explain better.