Legal advice

Hi I don’t really know where to turn so hoping I can get some advice on with way to go.
I have been separated from my ex for nearly 3 years now we have two children together who are now 10 and 12. I have a new partner and we have been together a while now. It’s come to my attention recently that my ex has been saying unkind things about me and my new partner to my children. I believe he’s been doing it the whole time but have only been told of the recent things. He’s called my partner a child and isn’t serious enough to look after children (we have a baby together) he’s called me a child and said I’ve gone back in time and many other things.
I know he has his opinions on my new relationship which is fine but I disagree with those opinions being voiced to my children.
We have booked a holiday and he’s told the children he’s nervous and doesn’t want them going as he believes they are not me number one priority.
Our son is autistic and I see the change in him everyone he comes back from his dads. He doesn’t say much to me and completely ignores my partner. My daughter on the other hand is very open with what’s going on.
Is there anything I can do to stop this behaviour? I believe it can be classed as mental abuse or manipulation on the children. I can’t confront him as my daughter has asked me not too plus with our past history and the manipulation I was put through he would only twist it to make me out to be wrong.
Please help I don’t want this to continue it’s unfair on my children.

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