Short wake windows

Anyone else's baby have very short wake windows?

1st wake window in the am is only 1hr 15 and that's with him being very antsy near the end.

The rest of his wake windows are about 1hr 30 and again the ends of them, he is so tired and whingey.

He's 5months now so I was expecting them to be in the 2hr mark. Is anyone else struggling with short wake windows? How do you extend them without you LO being super grouchy. Only worried as he's going to nursery in August and they only have 2 naptimes in the day. He currently has 4-6. I don't want him to struggle when he starts.

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