Feeling lost and lonely

I’m feeling more and more each day lately. It was okay for the 1st year after we had baby but not it’s getting worse, my husband doesn’t understand me anymore I feel. He has become insensitive towards me, I see a huge shift in how he treated me before kid and how he treats me now. Even if I’m crying while we’re in an argument, he wouldn’t bother and that literally stings me. I feel miserable and lonely, I feel I have no one to go to or no one who understands me anymore. I don’t know how to come out of this. We have had multiple conversations and feels like it’ll be all okay and we will handle it but we’re same every time or rather it’s getting worse. I keep getting panic attacks after arguments. I feel stuck in this loop. He claims he loves me and he does so many things but I don’t find it relevant, it’s all ruined after how he treats me in my weakest moments.

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You deserve so much more love than how he is treating you. Please reach out to one friend or loved one to tell them your situation. If you really have no one, please consider therapy. Talking to a licensed therapist can give you so much perspective and support, many insurance plans cover the cost or have copay. You matter and you deserve love.❤️

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