Visitors in the Hospital

If my parents and in-laws were in the same state, I would invite them! But they’re not, and we’ve only lived in this state for a year, so I don’t think I’m feeling close enough to invite any of our new friends to come 😅 I will say the benefit of introducing the baby in the hospital is that you can have nurses come in after 15-30 minutes and say that they need them to step out!

This may seem like a weird/arbitrary delineation, but for me, if it’s people who were already with me for support before going to the hospital (my best friend will come stay with me, and possibly my mom) I would be ok with them coming to the hospital. If it’s people coming in from out of town and they hadn’t been in my space prior, I don’t think I’d want them to come in. I think it would be too much for me to have people I hadn’t seen in a while come in at that moment - I’d rather they wait until we are home to come visit, second, their travel germs are around, and we haven’t acclimated to one another’s germs 😂 (I’m not a germaphobe, but in this case…)

Honestly, we are still working that out ourselves. I had my first during covid (in a previous relationship) so visitors weren't an option and it was bittersweet. I wouldve liked to be able to have one best friend in the couple days we were there after giving birth (especially since her father while technically present, was not supportive at all), but the thought of having my whole family there mortifies me. My wife on the other hand comes from a family where normally her parents and siblings would drop everything and crowd out the hallways waiting to meet baby 😅😬
We are trying to find a happy medium. Definitely curious to see what everyone else is doing

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My mum was really offended she couldn't come see me in hospital when I had the baby!
I had a planned c section, was listed for 10am but didn't happen until 4:30pm...

Having time for just me, husband and baby was the best thing we ever chose. I also still had catheters and really heavy post op bleeding, so I really wasn't up to seeing anyone!

As soon as we were home we invited parents over and only them for the first 2 weeks. Weirdly once home I was so anxious I just wanted my parents and brother around me

I think has it. I'm lucky enough to have super supportive family on both sides.

My sister in law is a retired nurse and is going to come for the birth and live with us for a month or so after. I'm really looking forward to her help.

Both my and my husband's family are out of state. His folks are going to come out 5ish days after the birth and stay around for about a week. I am looking forward to my FIL visiting but wish my MIL wasn't but of course they are a package deal. My folks are still TBD, I both really want them around for the birth and am concerned that having them around and wanting to do things with them will make me push myself too hard. It can probably be worked out via a heart to heart with my mom but I haven't found the right time yet.

All family members are agreeing to get flu, covid and RSV shots 2 weeks or more before traveling out and that no one will kiss baby's face.

With my first, my partner at the time let every man and their dog come in and visit while I was passed out asleep. Without my knowledge.

With my second born, we didn’t have a single visitor. My partner kept it completely personal and private.

There’s seriously no need for visitors if you don’t want them there. It’s a whole fricken event. Trauma. That’s a time for recovery & quiet.

Not to mention people bringing their germs in to meet a baby who literally just came out the womb..

You’re in such a vulnerable state. Let your partner care for you and your baby while you rest. People can see the baby later. That’s my opinion. (Each to their own 🤍)

With my first we wanted support, my partner was so tired and hungry, when my parents wanted to visit we said absolutely so he could go home and rest. I did have a c section though so it can be a little different. For this one we definitely want at least my mom so she can bring our son to meet his sister