Breastfeeding newborn

Is it okay that my 3day old is feeding for random times?

Like sometimes she won't stop for 30-45 minutes, then other times she has 10 minutes on one boob and then falls asleep?

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Completely normal. They're just getting used to their bodies not being passed nutrients through the placenta and having to actually seek it out themselves. Those first two weeks especially are just about survival and bonding. There's hardly a rhythm, just getting used to each other and showing her how things work out here. The two of you will find a natural rythm together without even realize it before long, and you can adjust that to slowly look more like a schedule later on down the road. For now, just soak it all in, take a million pictures, and just help that tiny baby feel all the love and protection you can.

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100% normal

Thats why they say "feed on demand", you can't feed on a schedule like 2 hourly. Babies aren't clocks. You feed when they signal.

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Yes. Every time baby feeds in the early days they are establishing your milk supply! It’s very important and for you, if you desire to bf, it’s important to let them feed on demand as well x

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Normal in the beginning. With time your baby will get into more of a routine but their feeding patterns change a lot over time. Also be aware of cluster feeding (not the case here but for the future) but it typically happens after 1-2weeks of life and can happen again multiple times at different stages of baby’s growth.

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Breastfeeding is such a variable thing particularly in the first 3 month of life. They can feed between every 10 minute to every 3 hours. They will feed between 10 minutes to an hour depending on theit latch and if theyre actually eating or using you for comfort like a dummy.

Keep latching them to their feeding ques and watch their chin to see if its a swallow or not. You can usually hear them swallow but they make a bigger jaw movement when they swallow.

Youre doing amazingly. As they get older theyll perfect their latch and go long and longer and take less times

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Very normal! We feed on demand! Neither of my girls had a set eating schedule. They were always amazing at not over eating so we always just fed them when they give us cues. Still like that for us to this day with my 19 month old and my 2 month old 😊🩵 (my 19 month old is always ready for some food or a snack tho 🤣 especially snacks 🤣)

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Ferber method

Has anyone tried this? I started tonight and I just can’t wait 5+ minutes, especially with him being in our room.
He goes down fine at night but is up at 4 am every morning, at this point he’s not hungry it’s just habit. I’ve been trying for over an hour now I feel like I’m not getting anywhere, it’s like he’s wide awake wired. He’s 6 months for record.
I end up putting him on boob and putting him in bed with me as I’m just exhausted.
I read about offering water instead at this time to break the cycle, but he still can’t soothe himself back to sleep so it still takes me over an hour to get him back down, at that point he’s basically done a wake window 🥲 please help!

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Need help!

I’m 1 week postpartum and I cry all the time. When the baby cries, I cry even more. When he can’t sleep, I get anxious and start crying too. I feel like I’m having severe baby blues. I’m not able to eat or drink, and I feel so sad. I don’t know why I’m feeling this way.

Will it get better?

I feel afraid, anxious, and overwhelmed. Also, when we hold the baby, he sleeps, but when we put him down, he wakes up, and it makes me so anxious.

Is this normal?

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How long does this feeling last postpartum?

I've just had my second baby a few days ago, our toddler is nearly 3.

I forgot how much of a whack your body and mind take in the first few days with hormones crashing and obviously sore from birth. I'm definitely coping a bit better this time round, but the added pressure of having a toddler to look after too is taking its toll a bit on my husband and I. I think we're both feeling quite anxious and overwhelmed.

I'm struggling to sleep when baby is sleeping, even though she's been fab so far and managing some good stretches of sleep, feeding well etc. I wasn't sure if that anxiety would hit me like last time (checking she's breathing every 2 seconds) but it is and I can't fully relax to sleep at night.

Currently my husband and I are having to take shifts during the night so at least one of us is awake, which isn't ideal but it means we both sleep better when we do, we just get less.

Although I'm breastfeeding and baby needs me more. It is a little overwhelming. It's especially overwhelming when I'm trying to feed etc and my toddler is desperate for my attention and I can't do anything for him because I'm stuck feeding and I'm also still really sore from birth and can't just hop up to play with him.

Obviously his dad is there for him but his dad is also holding down the fort house-wise and doing all the chores and dinners etc, so we're just feeling like it's getting on top of us a bit.

Trying to just let it be and go with the flow but its quite difficult. I had a big cry and panic going to bed earlier because I just felt like everything was too much. My body is in bits, I have to take blood thinning injections which I hate so much, I'm paranoid about baby spitting up even though I know its totally normal, I'm worried for my toddler and allthe change, he's been a little difficult and I feel like I can't be there for him properly. His dad is really worried about him too and is worried he's no longer a happy child because we've had a second baby, and I understand what he means because it feels like he's just constantly having tantrums and freaking over everything and getting upset easily.

I don't know what I'm looking for really, just any advice or reassurance I think. It's currently nearly 4am and I'm awake now for the day, there's no way I'll be able to fall asleep, my husband has been awake most of the night with baby and has now went to bed. It's just a lot and maybe we're making it more difficult for ourselves, I don't know. I'm just struggling more than I thought I would.

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Hi All!

I am just wanting some advice,

Currently my 3 month nearly 4 month old baby sleeps from 11pm-11am with one waking throughout the night, which I am definitely not complaining about!

But she will only nap for 20-40 mins throughout the day no matter what I try in terms of contact nap, in cot, etc.

Is there anything I could do help extend those naps or is she getting enough sleep at night, there’s no pressure for sleep?

Or do I just leave it for now, knowing the 4 month sleep regression is about to start?

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